It’s a weird thing but I think a lot of it has to do with the tone of voice you read it in, in your head… If I said those exact same words outloud it wouldn’t be an issue
I’ve had it a lot where I say something plainly in a text but if there’s any disagreement, people think I’m fighting with them.
So much is lost without facial expressions and intonation… and that’s something I could do much better with, especially when talking about things people feel very personal about.
And especially if they’ve been feeling threatened over it by large swaths of society.