Remember: Doctors do not have your back if you are a woman. (Obviously #NotAllDoctors but #EnoughDoctorsForSure.) If you feel sick, push it. If they dismiss it as anxiety, push harder. If they still dismiss it, get a lawyer into the loop right away. You can’t afford to trust their goodwill. They don’t have any.

If you’re feeling pain, insist on the same medication they’d give a man with the same symptoms. Don’t settle for ibuprofen when that man in the next bed is getting opiates for the same condition.

The medical system won’t fight for you. You have to fight for yourself if you want to live and not suffer.