As someone neurodivergent but not autistic I definitely see both perspectives here.
Sometimes the rules are stupid or unclear and the autistic person who’s willing to ask the questions changes it from “everyone is winging it in accordance with their own interpretation without understanding why” to bringing everyone onto the same page.
But on the other hand, I and most non autistic people, can instinctively interpret the questioning of the rules as disrespect for the clear reason for them or as a polite way of calling the rule bullshit. I’ve had enough experience with autistic folks to ask for clarity and try to explain, but most neurotypicals don’t (doesn’t make it ok). This is something neurotypicals need to be taught to be sympathetic towards. It will make them better not just at interacting with autistic people but with being coherent towards each other and preventing the situation where everyone just assumes their way to incoherence.
Also sometimes it’s a situation of “can you please just accept the rules so we can get to what we’re here to do?”, which is a situation where I’m sympathetic to both sides.
As someone neurodivergent but not autistic I definitely see both perspectives here.
Sometimes the rules are stupid or unclear and the autistic person who’s willing to ask the questions changes it from “everyone is winging it in accordance with their own interpretation without understanding why” to bringing everyone onto the same page.
But on the other hand, I and most non autistic people, can instinctively interpret the questioning of the rules as disrespect for the clear reason for them or as a polite way of calling the rule bullshit. I’ve had enough experience with autistic folks to ask for clarity and try to explain, but most neurotypicals don’t (doesn’t make it ok). This is something neurotypicals need to be taught to be sympathetic towards. It will make them better not just at interacting with autistic people but with being coherent towards each other and preventing the situation where everyone just assumes their way to incoherence.
Also sometimes it’s a situation of “can you please just accept the rules so we can get to what we’re here to do?”, which is a situation where I’m sympathetic to both sides.