Hello everyone! I know I signed up about a year ago, but I finally worked up the courage to post. My life’s been… pretty rough for the past year or so. No major reason why, just my mental health being weird. Kind of old, getting older, never really figured myself out, living paycheck to paycheck in a town I don’t really like, isolated most of the time. I don’t want to sound like I’m whining, so sorry if I do. It’s just all sort of come to a head recently, and I’m trying to figure out if it’ll ever really get what I want out of life. I still have some hope that things can improve, at least, even if it’s slight.
Not to be Captain Obvious nor to sound like I’m trying to tell you how to live your life. Please, figure out ways to be less isolated. Isolation is directly related to negative mental health experiences that can easily cause poor overall health. I am cheering for you and I want to ask that you come to these posts and keep us all informed. OK?
No, you didn’t sound like you were trying to tell me how to live my life at all (I appreciate the reply!)! But you’re definitely right, my therapist suggested I look on Meetup for things to get me out of my house. I’ve been trying to drive to surrounding towns to get less nervous about leaving home too (I work from home, which is great, but it has given me some very bad habits about staying inside). Thank you for replying, and I will be sure to keep everyone informed!
Thirteen years ago, when my wife and I moved from southeast USA to northeast USA, we used Meetup. We would, basically, pick anything that looked remotely interesting. Going to all those meetups helped us to quickly find social things to do until we started making friends closer to home. Like your therapist, I encourage you to use it. Take care and keep us informed!
How is my week going?
A Beehaw user replies to my Leemy comment that I write like a “machine artificial intelligence” in my use of English. Casual dehumanizer on machine app (iPhone, Android?) machine lust lover. I created social media sites (published social media server apps) in year 1985 in high school and the society of Internet “Netizens” has never been more owned to dehumanize persons they don’t grasp or understand. The deport-others deport- second language speakers - block-others, immigration enforcement “you are a non-person” and write like a non-local dialect society…
- “society has reached a point at which it has literally been overcome by its technology and the new and important issues aren’t about, ah, things like the non-believer or the non-offender, but about the non-person.” - Duke University, Rick Roderick
sub-human, non-person, you sound like a bot non-human to others. Never ever ever ever facing the very old phrase “Sounds Like Greek language to me!”.
Going great! Got back from a trip to Scotland last Friday, unpacked and repacked, and went to the second week of Pennsic the following day. I’ve had a fantastic time with my away from home experiences, but it’s pretty dang satisfying now to be sitting on the couch just chilling with my partner and cat and nothing on the agenda.
Just realized I failed to pay the cat tax.
Not bad, concluding my 2.5 month work search with a nice enough offer that I’ll likely accept. A bit concerned about the workload, but should be doable (famous last words)
Hell yes! Its easier to get a new job when you have a job so if its not right, fuck em
I turned down a job offer due to its lack of transparency and structure. I feel regret and relief. Someone told me I could’ve just taken the job and see how it would take off (as a very new startup), but I was eyeing their unguaranteed, unpredictable hours (no social outreach, online contact info, questionable timeliness, etc.) in conflict with my transportation logistics and said no. Plus…I’ve seen disorganized leadership before, and I detected it throughout the whole process.
They kept saying it might’ve been worth a try, though. And it’s like great, sure, stir up more of my regret and what ifs. I definitely declined it without any hesitation whatsoever.
Other than that, had another interview. It was weird and oddly short. Not confident.
Aaand…I pet my dog. A lot. He’s fluffy.
Nah, exposing yourself to an unsafe workplace with the plan to leave if/when you get hurt is NOT a good plan. You did the right thing. Please give extra pets to dog.
I think you trusted your gut, and I think that’s 100% the right play. Honestly how often does a job with a bunch of red flags turn out to be, SURPRISE, awesome? Not too often, imo.
I’m still cheering for you and I’m confident that all will be well given time.
