Going through a lot of shit might make you “stronger” (in terms of more resilient) to shit happening, but it shouldn’t be something to be proud of. For me getting more resilient to bullying meant also, that I was, and to some degree still Am, living with massive distrust in myself. It taught me to better not say an*thing than to say something that I didnt thought through hundert times, because everything else has benn used against me. It took years to unlearn the patterns that years of getting bullied forced me into. Yeah, I Am stronger now and I definitely do not care that much anymore, but the price was high. If I could choose I would 100% decide to not have to go through the stuff I had to go through.
Going through a lot of shit might make you “stronger” (in terms of more resilient) to shit happening, but it shouldn’t be something to be proud of. For me getting more resilient to bullying meant also, that I was, and to some degree still Am, living with massive distrust in myself. It taught me to better not say an*thing than to say something that I didnt thought through hundert times, because everything else has benn used against me. It took years to unlearn the patterns that years of getting bullied forced me into. Yeah, I Am stronger now and I definitely do not care that much anymore, but the price was high. If I could choose I would 100% decide to not have to go through the stuff I had to go through.