So before anything I’m a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I’d like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.
I’ve been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).
I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.
It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don’t understand what they want.
Thanks for the advice, but I already tried when I was a teenager. I only accepted a date from a classmate who later physically hurt me after I disclosed that I’m trans. What I like about the apps is that they can’t hurt me physically they can only say bad things
I think their suggestion was that your teenage experience is not indicative of the experiences you can have out in the wider world.
Dating as a teen is a serious social enigma. You are limited in who you can meet, and everyone knows everyone. That fundamentally changes everything about finding and retaining a partner.
You are still very young (in terms of “finding love”). I know it can feel like you’re missing out, and of course we all crave companionship, but you should know that as your life goes on you have the opportunity to meet all sorts of interesting and kind people from all over the world and a variety of walks of life
If you put your focus on developing your hobbies, exploring the world and its varied experiences, and surrounding yourself with people and environments that are good for you, then you are likely to find more genuine, natural romantic connections just by forming non-romantic relationships along the way.