• yoink [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    5 months ago

    why is always when some shit like this gets posted i see a bunch of reactionary comments on hexbear like ‘oh well i guess we all have to date someone born the same SECOND as us HUH? I better tell my WIFE I’m a P*DO because there’s two years between us!!’ like come the fuck on

    i get it, idpol’s gone wild and the youth are nutso but do you really have to throw out the nuance?? maybe i’m misreading things but it feels like some of yall get really defensive when this topic comes up, and as a result we can never have any valid discussion about this topic without someone throwing some reddit-level bad faith thing at you for saying ‘yes, there is some truth to age-gap discourse’

    • sooper_dooper_roofer [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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      5 months ago

      If you used discord between 2021-2023 it was just a bunch of racist honkeys cutting themselves and calling each other pdf files

      It might also still be like that, I wouldn’t know because I don’t talk to honkeys anymore

    • someone [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      When I was a young man I thought I was “raised Catholic” because my Catholic parents took me and my siblings to church weekly until we were each 18. But the older I got, the more I realized how fantastic they were at shielding me and my siblings from Catholic brainworms, after seeing what actually happens to the actual “raised Catholic” victims.

      • courier8377 [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        Both are being raised catholic, just in different ways. Conservative catholics don’t have a monopoly on the labels of the religion, but it sure seems like it could slide that way in the general public perception :/

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          Thinking back on it I realize how much they trusted me and my siblings to make our own decisions on religion. They never brought up religion in the home. They just brought us to church (which was definitely more of a social-pressure small-town thing in those days), let us listen, and think about it all ourselves.

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      I would figure maybe this was caused in part by conservative Catholic anti-sex brainworms and young guys feeling ownership of women their age and jealous that their classmates are dating older guys instead of being their Catholic trad wife. Hook up with a guy a few years older and we’ll lynch his ass? That’s the message.

      I mean, c’mon here. The people who have been yelling about “age gaps” for the last 4+ years have not been Conservative Catholics & Incels. This is 100% a “cultural-left”, radlib phenomenon.

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          You mean the conspiracy theory that

          CW Sensitive topics.

          “Washington D.C. Lizardmen are trafficking elementary-age minors using a Pizza Restaurant as a front organization”?

          Yes, I’m aware of that. It’s also an obviously unrelated form of brainworm to what’s going on here.

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          I know of a not-insignificant portion of young misogynistic guys who are angry at women their age for dating older guys instead of them. They were around even when I was the age of the guys in this article and that was a while ago. I always felt like that fed into a lot of guys buying into the Alpha Male discourse that come around later. Probably related to incels too, but not sure which came first.

          I do not deny that there are lots of men who get mad about women dating other men, for lots of reasons. My issue here is with the unevidenced assertion (we don’t have the original article here) that this assault specifically is being driven primarily by that specific specie of brainworms. People like to ascribe every bad thing that happens only to their opponents, and never to flaws in their own house.

          Further reasoning but CW for sensitive subjects.

          If they wanted to get back at women for dating older men, they would’ve just assaulted a woman; rather than picking a fight with a male soldier who, even they would imagine, could presumably fight back.

    • sooper_dooper_roofer [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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      5 months ago

      Power dynamics. Do you disagree?

      It’s hilarious because interracial marriage should be absolutely banned under that logic, as would wealth-gap disparity and

      wait

      heterosexual marriage would be banned too

      was the pedophile witch-hunt a secret GAY psyop all along?

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    Age gap ‘discourse’ is just cheap moralism. Vapid self-righteousness is like the zoomer internet brainrot equivalent of boomers howling about immigrants