My sister Lena (14F) used to be friends with and is in some friend group with a sporty girl named Ashlyn (14F). She is essentially what the teens call a “pick me girl”, or someone who puts other women down to gain attention from men.
She’s nice to people she doesn’t know. She’s nice to guys. She’s nice to the teachers, and even nice to the few girls she genuinely likes in her friend group. But every other girl? Hell nah. She thinks she’s more masculine, likable, and better at sports than every other girl and has successfully convinced her friends that her rudeness is just “a joke”, but I know damn well it isn’t.
She seems to be well-liked in the school despite not liking anyone but a few people because she doesn’t show her true colors. She also has a completely different demeanor in public than when they’re alone, and as I stated, is a very manipulative and self-centered person.
When she’s around others, she’ll be pretty nice or normal towards Lena, and like I said, played it off as a joke the few times she showed her true self in public, then said “It’s not your fault, Lena”. When they’re alone, however, she acts the same way as the friend group does when Ashlyn’s around: dry, distant, monotone, etc.
Ashlyn asks Lena to do her favors but hasn’t done ANYTHING for Lena. Whenever Lena asks her a question or tells her something, she just says “Mhm/K/Cool” or nods/gives a thumbs up without making eye contact. She then told Lena she doesn’t care about what she has to say, never has, never will care about her, and doesn’t care about anyone or anything. And it’s pretty odd that she wants Lena of all people to know that.
Ashlyn also believes she’s entitled to girls’ boyfriends and tries to steal them from the girls. Lena’s male friend tried to excuse her behavior and say “She’s just having a bad day/People don’t like it when they’re asked questions or others talk about their achievements”. Number 1: A bad day consistently for years?? Even so, it’s not an excuse. Number 2: Most people will congratulate you, they don’t behave like this. And most people don’t like when they’re asked PERSONAL questions, not just innocent ones.
I know she’s 10 years younger than me (I’m 24) but I don’t like her either.
hopefully someone creates a /c/AmIOverreacting . while that community grows, i guess we can just crosspost to asklemmy directing lemmings to go original post
reddit has both /r/AmIOverreacting and /r/AIO and both are active, but the former has more comments
Seriously. These aren’t what c/AskLemmy is supposed to be for. It’s a supposed to be a clone of r/AskReddit.
Hopefully someone makes a AIO then
Hopefully, I can make it!
She also gets mad at Lena for having autism and manipulates her friends into hating Lena for saying “Hi how are you?”
What a stupid thing to hate someone for and want to ruin their life for.
“Woman found dead, killed by other woman because she said ‘How are you’”
Are you not OP? You’re both Aurora
It is, I am OP. Both are my alts. My OP account (this one) wasn’t working
Might be her alt account
As a former teenager and father of teenagers, I can attest to the fact that teenagers do suck. But it’s tough being a teen and trying to find a place that you feel like you belong. Feeling accepted by someone that you think of as equal or better than yourself is really important at that time. With you no longer being in that phase of your life, it’s pretty normal for you to see shitty teenage behavior and want to call it out for what it is.
She’s highly abusive, ableist, and tries to convince my sister everyone hates her to manipulate her into either feeling bad about herself or so she’ll have no friends except Ashlyn.
She says she hates Lena but wants to talk to her all the time. She blows up at Lena for petty stuff because of “her mental illness” but hates Lena for having mental illnesses. And her friends think this behavior is OK. They’re so badly abused by her they think it’s okay.
She called Lena a pervert and a creep for trying to make conversation w her.
Yeah. Teenage girls are difficult to talk to sometimes, but I’d still make every effort to talk to my sister if one of her friends was like this.
With friends like that, who needs enemies?
I ranted about her based on a conversation between her and my sister. Oh my God, she SUCKS.
Huh, that’s what a pick me is? I hadn’t understood that previously. I thought it was someone who tried to suck up and pander to people, so I guess about the opposite.
Anyway, I get pretty annoyed at people like that. I’ve had friends who do the opposite, where they’re engaged and silly and energetic one-on-one, then when they get around other people, go into “cool mode” where they’re low key, low energy, and sorta negative about me.
