I hope we all know this and are just doing it as a bit, but sometimes I do see shit on this website that makes me go “Oh y’all are genuinely just weird prudes”

The “gooner epidemic” is not real, gooning is an incredibly niche kink that very few people engage in.

“Porn addiction” is basically non existent and affects such a small portion of the population as to not be relevant. The idea that most people have in their heads about porn addiction is propaganda made up by evangelicals.

We do not live in an overly-sexually-liberated time. There is not an excess of sexual content or exposure to it.

Most of the time when people talk about “the gooner problem” what they’re actually talking about is a mix of two unrelated things, people living normal sexually liberated lives, and undersocialized young men that don’t know how to interact with people.

Sex is good. We should be having more of it. We should encourage healthy, safe sex featuring whatever kinks you and your partner(s) consent to. Don’t fall for puritan propaganda comrades.

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      that’s the point. If you let everyone be unrelentingly horny you’d have a lot of cis people and random chasers making others uncomfortable. There’s the entire rest of the internet for that. But a place that actively roots out the chasers and weirdos and provides some trans-specific spaces, is a safer place to express things about being trans, including sexuality. I mean there are trans ppl being horny on twitter or whatever but they receive a stream of chasers, incels, reactionaries, etc. harassing them in DMs and not everyone is up for that especially early on in transition, nor should they have to be

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        to be clear i wasn’t complaining or anything, it’s just pretty much the only place on hexbear i’ve seen anyone be horny at all really, except as a joke responding to a meme or something

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      As they should. Queer sexuality is demonized and marginal. I am personally ace and lowkey volcel, yet it doesnt challenging horniness is something that can be done blindly and equally.