I hope we all know this and are just doing it as a bit, but sometimes I do see shit on this website that makes me go “Oh y’all are genuinely just weird prudes”

The “gooner epidemic” is not real, gooning is an incredibly niche kink that very few people engage in.

“Porn addiction” is basically non existent and affects such a small portion of the population as to not be relevant. The idea that most people have in their heads about porn addiction is propaganda made up by evangelicals.

We do not live in an overly-sexually-liberated time. There is not an excess of sexual content or exposure to it.

Most of the time when people talk about “the gooner problem” what they’re actually talking about is a mix of two unrelated things, people living normal sexually liberated lives, and undersocialized young men that don’t know how to interact with people.

Sex is good. We should be having more of it. We should encourage healthy, safe sex featuring whatever kinks you and your partner(s) consent to. Don’t fall for puritan propaganda comrades.

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    Sex is good. Porn is often not.

    Other than a lot of porn being exploitative in it’s production, overconsumption of porn is very common, and often contributes to people having weird attitudes to over sexualising women.

    It fucks with your reward system. You can absolutely become addicted. It’s not a particularly healthy habit. You can desensitise yourself to real sex and change the way you’re able to enjoy it.

    In these times, where you get served up porn content on your explore page for no good reason, I think porn consumption can easily become unhealthily pushed upon you.

    The volcel police meme is a bit tired now, but I do think it’s good that we keep this site mostly non sexual.

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      fair point, especially about being served up sexual content in spaces otherwise not meant for it (like instagram). again, capitalism preys on humanity’s basest desires and floods our markets with sexual content.

      and as an old, i just want to say that the “sex positivity” era of the early 2010s ran cover for throngs of abusers to get easy access to people who were exploring their sexual liberation and caused lots of harm to lots of good people, so it really leaves a bad taste in my mouth now.

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        The free love movement during the 70s-80s included a lot of adults getting to sexual acess to teenagers, at least in europe it did. Thats why there are so much older media with straight up illegal age gaps. And of course french cinema where half of the stuff is about a 15 year old having a forbidden romance with her 40+ married poetry teacher.

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        Yep, really sad. Just because the algorithm can detect I’m a young man, my explore page gets flooded with sexual content. I never search for that on Instagram, and I only ever open them to select the option ‘stop showing me content like this’ - and yet, just because my interests are otherwise very male, I will never stop being shown a steady stream of onlyfans girls.

        And yep, same as the free love generation in the 60s and 70s. Lot of pedos there. Lot of pedos in the hippy scene in general, even to this day.

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      The people’s VOLCEL VANGUARD are on the scene! PLEASE RESERVE YOUR PRECIOUS BODILY FLUIDS FOR STRATEGIC ACTS OF MASS REVOLUTIONARY CUMMING!!!

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