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  • Gifted student, never studied, until it all fell apart in university. Aphantasia, no internal monologue. Multiple rounds with doctors, insisting on prescribing anti anxiety meds, despite not experiencing anxiety. Getting dropped by doctors, and having to repeat the whole process again… Prescribed a pure dex based medication, which helped, but also didn’t…

    The only places our stories really diverge is that I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and I still haven’t had any luck getting a medication that works for me…








  • I call it what it is. Socialization as a closeted trans person.

    Which is to say, it’s a mixture of being socialised as our assigned genders, but it’s also our own internal relationship and interaction with those norms and pressures. And that last part is very different between cis people and trans people.

    I’m not saying trans people escape the influence of being socialised according to our assigned genders. I’m saying the way we internalise and respond to those norms, perceptions and pressures differs sufficiently that it should be acknowledged and talked about, not erased and conflated with cis experiences.



  • but being trans did not make me immune to the harmful behaviours and ideas that are taught to those children perceived as boys.

    Absolutely not. But you also didn’t have the same relationship with your upbringing as cis men and boys did, because you dealt with a lifetime of internalised transphobia that made you doubt who you are.

    We all absolutely share some similarities with the socialisation of our cis peers, good and bad, but we did not have the same experience as them, and I think that’s an important distinction to make. “Male socialisation” erases those different experiences. But when you don’t conflate the two experiences, you can start to talk about the difference, whilst also acknowledging the commonalities.