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Cake day: October 18th, 2023

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  • I’ve been a husband for almost 20 years now. “I don’t feel like it” is plenty of fucking reason for not having sex. Full stop.

    You are under no obligation to provide him with your body whenever he wants it. There are plenty of ways for couples to foster intimacy that aren’t sex.

    What would he do if you had cancer and just couldn’t because of treatment?

    What would he do if you were in a parasailing accident and in a full body cast?

    This behavior is gross, I get having a drive etc. But that’s his problem, not yours.

    Remind him he’s got a hand (or he can buy a fleshlight) and the internet if he’s feeling that frustrated.





  • I generally don’t engage this much with posts of these types, but you seem to be a person who is making statements in good faith. As such, I want to encourage you to look a bit more into those you might label the “alt-left” because I’m quite certain I fall into that category and there’s a lot more than “anyone can do anything they want at anytime” to what we (in the US) were taught in school about things like historical Anarchist movements.

    Namely: “Anarchy means no rules and no one is in charge! Burn everything!!!”

    If I were to sum things up as succinctly as possible I would say that the primary idea behind “anarchy” as a philosophy isn’t a “return to tribalism” but a flattening of hierarchies. (Not to be confused with anarcho-capitalism, which is in practice very different with regard to hierarchy)

    Boiled down to key concepts:

    • No one person is inherently better or more intrinsically valuable than another person.
    • Every person should be allowed their own agency, to associate with whom they please, and have access to the necessities of life.
    • Any decisions made should be made with the consent of everyone they affect.

    There’s a lot of actual theory and what not you can get into, it’s all available freely online, because that’s another thing anarchists are big on, free access to education. The first read that springs to mind is “The Conquest of Bread” which lays out how and why an anarchy based society would work in practice. (Tl;Dr: technology has made it so that we can produce far more than we actually need, so we are capable of supporting everyone without starvation, homelessness, and man-made oppression)





  • I startled my dogs laughing at that last bit.

    Last time I dealt with Matlab much was like fifteen years ago when I was helping some people using it for quick interpretation of data. We just kept finding bugs that caused calculation errors (which they fixed pretty quickly TBF) and it was so much slower than any other general programming language we tried. It could be way better now, I wouldn’t know, I haven’t had call to use it since… A circuit simulation class?