Misinformation like this can be incredibly damaging to those who read it. You are basing your entire post on assumptions that directly contradict reality, and all the research we have to prove it.

First off, for breast augmentation, nerve endings live largely in the dermal layer, nipples, and mammory glands, which remains untouched by augmentation. Breast implants are placed behind the breast tissue and mammory tissue, leaving everything on the surface with just as much sensation as was there before (granted, it can take time to recover from the surgery and regain sensation, and there is of course the rare risk of complications, but that is not the outcome in the vast majority of breast augmentation surgeries). Additionally, you can choose to get the implant under the muscle, even deeper than subglandular implants.

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If you decide to change the location of the nipple, then yes, that comes with the risk of loss of sensation. A greater risk than is present in basic breast augmentation, but still not an expectation long-term. The only case where it is expected to lose some sensation is a free nipple graft, in which the nipple-areola complex is separated from its original nerve supply.

Then there’s SRS, and I have a lot to say about that. I’ll keep my thoughts condensed though, as I don’t have the free time to write all of them in this comment, but I’ll lay out the essential parts. For SRS that is done from someone with a penis, with the goal of creating a neovagina (or even just a neovulva), penile tissue is used to ensure erotic sensation. Good surgeons are incredible at working around nerves to ensure you have as much sensation as you realistically can. It is normal to lose sensation and gain it back over time, as the underlying structure of the nerves needs to heal from the surgery. Some people will never have the same level of sensation as before, some will have more sensation—and that’s for a reason you clearly haven’t considered. Genital dysphoria can significantly stunt the pleasure someone receives from sex. Having genitals that align with one’s wants allows the mental roadblock put up by gender dysphoria to be taken down. This is why trans women who get vaginoplasties are generally incredibly satisfied with their results. Living in a body that does not align with you has a dramatic effect on one’s ability to gain pleasure from sex. Not only that, but it completely changes they type of sex that we can have, and how sex is performed on us. That, itself, is incredibly affirming. Many trans women will stand behind their opinion that bottom surgery was (one of) the best decision(s) of their life. Besides, even those who lose sensation often agree it was more than worth it to finally feel aligned with their body. It’s so much more than just about sex. And on that topic, sex is so much more that just orgasming. If you believe that’s the goal of sex, then I’m sorry. The best sex I’ve ever had in my life didn’t involve an orgasm. There’s so much more emotion and intimacy that goes into sex beyond that. Bottom surgery involves every part of how we live throughout the day. For me, I always feel it. I haven’t gotten bottom surgery, and it’s a constant source of dread throughout my entire day. It’s like this phantom feeling of something being there that shouldn’t be. It feels awful. I’d do anything to get rid of that feeling and finally be able to live my life in peace and in alignment with my body. If I never had another orgasm in my life, I’d still happily do it. The same is true about any gender affirming surgery, as well. It isn’t about keeping sensation—it’s about feeling aligned with our bodies, and transitioning in the ways that we—and only we—decide.

It is not up to you to decide if other people should get surgery. You do not get to make that decision. The misinformation you have provided along with your gross misunderstanding of why we get surgery are incredibly disrespectful, and I find it quite offensive. The damage that a post like this can do to someone’s confidence about what they chose to do in their transition is horrible. Keep those thoughts to yourself.

You are more than welcome here to talk about why surgery doesn’t align with your own goals, but you have no right to decide that others shouldn’t get it.

Yeah, CPA completely nuked my testosterone. On maintenance, I was on 12.5mg (a quarter of a pill) every other day. When taking such a low dose, the side effects aren’t as bad, but ofc they still exist.

For me, I’m too early in development (21 months on HRT) to consider smth like Newman-Goldfarb, nor would I do it unless I needed it (I mean, it’s so much dedication pumping 8-12 times a day, and then dealing with side effects of medication on top of that). And I’m not having kids anytime soon, that’s a long ways out, but thank u regardless! When I eventually get to that point (probably in my mid 30s if I had to guess, so a decade out), I’m sure I’ll be further along in breast development. After all, I’d ideally wanna be at Tanner stage 5 before I’d consider breastfeeding.

At the beginning of my DIY HRT experience, I used CPA (months 1-4), and it worked great for my needs. Now I’m on monotherapy tho, and I appreciate not having to take an anti-androgen. Since starting on progesterone, tho (16 months after starting estradiol, been on it for 4 months now), I’ve recently started being able to lactate a very small amount. Just a drop at a time, but it’s super affirming when it happens. Sometimes I just do it for fun, and my gf also likes it lol. I’ve read that’s a fairly normal thing, and I can expect it to go away in the future (sad q.q), but when I inevitably have kids, then I’m gonna be on the whole Newman-Goldfarb protocol so I can breastfeed :3

I become a genuine problem when I’m with my gf (and can’t stop fantasizing while we’re apart) when on progesterone. Granted, I’m already kind of a problem without the progesterone, but it’s just more lmao. But that means that when we’re together, we have lots of fun ;3

As soon as I went full time fem, which was when I started presenting at work. That was ~20 months into my transition. Well, I’d used them a couple times before that when I was presenting fem in public, but I’d generally look for single occupancy or gender neutral bathrooms back then. It was a bit scary at first, but especially now that I have passing privilege, it’s just normal and slightly affirming. I’ve luckily never had any issues in women’s bathrooms, and I highly doubt I’d run into much issue in Seattle of all places, especially Capitol Hill lol

NOTE: I have provided numbers for trans women, buy I do not have numbers on trans men or trans nonbinary folks. There is likely to be deviation in those groups from the data I have provided.

Estimates from the US provide that only as much as 50% of trans women want to get any type of gender-affirming surgery, let alone bottom surgery, which is the hardest to recover from, the most difficult to get, and generally among the most expensive procedures available. Current estimates also provide that about of 11% of trans women in the US will be able to get bottom surgery in their lifetime. Keep in mind that in the US, 35% of trans women do not have health insurance, making it practically impossible for most of that 35% to even get it. Of the remaining 65%, there is still significant costs to get surgery, including not only the payments to insurance, but also travel and accommodation expenses (as you’ll need to remain near the hospital u get it done at for around 30 days post-op). Many of us will never have the means to get it, even those of us who want to, especially with how disproportionately poverty affects trans people.

Me, personally? I’m going to get it. I don’t care what else I have to give up, I will either get the surgery, or die trying. My girlfriend is the same way. But again, only ~50% of trans women even seriously want to get bottom surgery, and that’s on the larger side of the estimates.

Trans women should have agency over their bodies. We, and no one else, should have the ability to make those decisions for us. There are many trans women not interested in surgery, and that’s completely fine. Surgery doesn’t make a trans woman any more or less valid, or any more or less of a woman. Every trans woman is a woman, regardless of how they choose to transition. Some of us don’t even want to take HRT. The idea of a “full transition” is ignorant, and transmedicalist. However a trans person wants to transition is their own business, and it’s certainly not up to cis people to decide what we should do.

That being said—for the same reason of bodily autonomy that makes your description of it problematic—someone who attempts to inhibit a trans person’s ability to transition in the way they want is obviously in the wrong as well. It is no one’s choice but our own how we transition.

I’ve been on progesterone since June (rectally 2 weeks on 2 weeks off), and oh my does it make me horny. Hope u get the results u want out of it!!

I’m a switch and vers, so I do top. Luckily, I can be fine either way, I just want to experience both from time to time. My current gf is also a switch and vers, so that works out great! When we have sex with other people, I just adapt to the situation however feels natural.

But Brawndo’s got what plants crave!

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Awwww, thanks! My girlfriend is just as kinky lmao

Oh, and that reminds me! There’s a girl I need to check for availability. She’s a rigger, and I wanna do some suspension uwu

Not sure, I score lower on brat nowadays. I put up much less of a fight than I thought I would when I took that test last. It’s only occasionally that I’ll tease or be that way, but only if my partner wants it. Otherwise, when I’m submitting, I’m theirs.

Here’s an updated test I just took today, after finally being able to actually explore my sexual interests physically instead of just fantasizing about what I want (wow I’m ridiculously kinky lmao):

My kinks have changed dramatically over the last 3 years lol. Here’s my most recent previous one:

Funnily enough, if I took it today, it would also look different, as I’ve since discovered that I’m very polyamorous lmao

EDIT: I took it again, and here are my updated results:

I had a lot of similar worries before presenting fem myself. Hell, even your high school experience feels similar to mine. I will say though, that I’ve gone full fem everywhere in my life, and it’s one of the best feelings in the world. Granted, I have passing privilege, and I worked on my voice a ton before presenting fem in public, so YMMV, but I’ll tell you how I deal with some of the stuff you have worries about.

As long as I put makeup on, I have passing privilege. But if I go out without any, my lip shadow (from facial hair) is quite noticeable. I’ve had people take notice of it, but I have enough feminine cues that people generally treat me as a woman regardless. The voice helps a lot, I must say. It’s hard, it will take a lot of work, and likely help from a professional to get exactly where you want to be, but it’s worth it in my experience. When I was at work prior to presenting fem, and someone perceived me as a woman, I used my “old” voice, and they immediately said “oh, sorry dude” or similar. I think the biggest thing that helped quell my anxiety was just going full fem, and realizing that even without the makeup, no one really cared. I just presented fem enough to be gendered correctly, and regardless of whether or not people knew I was trans, I was generally just treated as a woman. It also helped for me to understand (through therapy) that other peoples’ opinions of me don’t make me any more or less valid. I’m a woman, and no one’s opinion is going to change that fact for me.

As for transphobia, I’d deal with it the same way I deal with misogyny. If it’s someone I don’t know, I’d just put a smile on and pretend like nothing happened, while doing whatever is necessary to get out of the situation without provocation. My experience is that fighting back is just gonna provoke the other person, and they don’t get the same sense of power if you don’t show them the reaction they expect. The situation is more complicated with friends and coworkers. Honestly, I’ve been lucky enough to not deal with transphobic from friends or coworkers, so I don’t have any experience there to give guidance. I will say though, you shouldn’t let that experience dissuade you from being true to who you are. No one should have to hide themselves because of someone else’s perception of who they should be.

As for the feeling like you’re intruding part, I can say that I no longer get that feeling for being trans. I feel like I belong in the women’s spaces I’m in, and I no longer have the constant anxiety of thinking I won’t fit in. The fact of the matter is that I’m generally welcomed with open arms, and I’m able to engage with other women in ways that didn’t feel possible pre-transition.

It’s easy to get caught up in thoughts about how other people will perceive you, but the best advice that I can give is that you should live your life a the way that is true to yourself. You shouldn’t be forced into presenting as someone you aren’t, or feel pressured by other peoples’ beliefs of who you should be. Granted, that’s easier said than done, but I’ve spent a long time at this point learning that, and allowing myself to live as my true self has been perhaps the greatest decision of my life. I could never go back at this point.

The answer is simple. When Sisyphus arrives, each occupant is told to move to the room number that is 2 higher than their own, and then Sisyphus and the boulder could each have a room to stay—rooms 1 and 2. Thus the happiness of Sisyphus—and by extension his boulder—would be based on the quality of the accommodations of The Grand Hilbert Hotel

I’ll just share my own experience, as I hope it may be helpful. Until recently, I’d not had sex since transition. Before transition, it just felt weird and wrong, and I stopped for abt 9 years for a variety of personal reasons. A month and a half ago, I had my first sexual experience post-transition, and I’ve have a whole lot since then. I am not comfortable with penetrative sex using my parts, though I do feel okay using a strap-on with my partner (both giving and receiving). We got one that’s super feminine, and looks like red lace lingerie with a corset back, and it’s hot as fuck. But I’m a switch and vers, so I play both sides there. I used to be really uncomfortable with the idea of oral on me, but honestly, it didn’t feel bad when it happened, and I’ve enjoyed it since. Now, I won’t be able to climax from it—it’s just not the right sensation—but it does feel good.

However, most of sex for me is found elsewhere. My partner and I (and the people we’ve been with together) are incredibly kinky, and all of the people I’ve been with lately have been trans and polyamorous. I get the most joy out of my body being touched, being bitten, scratched, cut, drawn on, having my hair pulled, being choked, spanked, blindfolded, tied up, and just a hell of a lot of other things that don’t involve the genitals. For me, sex is not abt having an orgasm—it’s abt having fun! I love it when I can make other people orgasm, but I should know damn well that it’s hard for some people (bc it’s been impossible for me unless I do it myself). As long as everyone is having fun, the sex is good.

What I’ve learned from my recent partners is that u really have to rediscover urself. U need to learn what does and doesn’t work for u. And for that to be possible, u have to find someone u can trust to explore with. I got really lucky finding my gf, and I’m immensely grateful for it. I will say, however, that I have passing and pretty privilege. My gf thought I was cis when we first met. I understand that is a privilege, but honestly, it wouldn’t have mattered to anyone that I’ve had sex with lately. They were all trans anyway, so I didn’t need to pass. I just needed to strike up good conversation, flirt, and go in for the kill kiss. Then from there on, things just happened naturally. “So, am I going home with u tonight?” Or “what are ur plans for tonight?” Stuff like that. I was really far out of my comfort zone when I approached my gf, who was the first person I’ve been with in many years. But I was so done with feeling constantly alone, and we just got along so well when we were talking, that I pushed through it and faked the confidence I needed to get myself there. And since then, I’ve learned a lot about how to talk and flirt with people, and all kinds of stuff. It’s been a hell of an experience.

Now, I will say smth abt anal. I tried it on myself a number of times and wasn’t really into it. It just didn’t do anything for me, and while I like pain (very much a masochist), it just didn’t get me going. But recently, my gf has started doing it on me, and it’s a completely different experience. On myself, it doesn’t feel all that great, but when someone else is doing it to me, I get so much stimulation and pleasure that I almost just completely dissociate into a slutty pool of ecstasy. My gf knows how to actually do anal, and she has been stretching me out with her fingers first, which by themselves already feels incredible. It’s completely different than me doing it to myself. I just completely melt in her hands lol. I’ve heard from her that it does take a lot of time to get used to it and relax the right way, but we’ve been working on it, and it has been so fucking amazing.

I’m not afraid to admit that I’m now a slut. I’ve had so much sex with lots of different people, including group sex, just in the last month. The other night, I made out with 5 trans women at the bar (it’s trans night on Tuesdays, so I have a good selection), and was offered group sex multiple times just for the logistics to unfortunately not work out. Sex has completely changed for me in a way that I barely ever could have imagined. I lived in fear that I’d never enjoy it for so long, but I’m finally finding what I need. That took me a lifetime of discovery to find.

I want SRS so badly, and what I have makes me incredibly dysphoric, but I’ve discovered ways to make it work for myself in the meantime. For instance, when I masturbated, I did it differently post-transition. I typically used a toy (my favorite is a wand), and I found that feminine toys really helped me feel okay with it. I’ve had to rediscover myself in my (relatively) newfound femininity. I think that I’d have trouble with enjoying sex if I hadn’t started exploring my own kinks, but obviously not everyone is kinky like that. But u can explore urself in different ways than kinks.

There’s not gonna be a blanket answer for every trans person to feel comfortable with sex. Of course I acknowledge asexuality, but I’m trying to get a point across. It’s different for everyone, and there are 2 things I can recommend. The first is using the wonderful tool of imagination. I’ve spent so much time just fantasizing abt what I think I’d like to try, and have been for many years. I’ve learned to keep an open mind, and challenge myself to understand things that I’m not familiar with, and consider them and how I may or may not enjoy them. The second…well it’s just to try. I can’t give u guidance on how to find a partner u trust, but if u can, then that makes things much easier. I felt like a virgin when I had my first post-transition sex. I didn’t know if I was doing things right, and I just went by instinct, and it turns out my instinct was good. We talked abt our boundaries beforehand, safe words (I use stoplight green/yellow/red), and what we were looking for. We talked the whole time, and gave each other feedback on what we did and didn’t like, and what we want the other to do next. It was a collaborative effort for us to both have fun. I was very upfront abt not being able to orgasm, and she understood bc she’s the same way.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that self-discovery is a journey. No one can walk u through how to discover urself. That’s smth that u have to figure out for urself. But its absolutely worth trying to discover urself. It can be difficult, and it takes time, but it’s how u live the truest version of urself.

Hope ur journey leads u to wonderful things <3

It is fun! Honestly I thought I was monogamous until I started a friends with benefits kinda thing with my (now) gf and we ended up having a foursome the following week, followed by me having sex with another member of the polycule we went home with lol. We have romantic exclusivity, but sex is open as long as we communicate and make sure everyone is tested and safe. I suppose I have it easier bc I get to go to Seattle and go out to doll’s night where there are a ton of horny, polyamorous trans girls (and enby folks), and I got blessed with a pretty lucky face, and (I don’t see it but…) an okayish body? Granted, Ive also been on HRT for almost 2 years, and have some things to show for it hehe~.

I’ve also started to learn how to talk to people at bars (at least other trans girls), so I’m reaching the point where I can kinda pick who I go home with, which is super exciting. I went from no sex for…9ish years? To being a complete slut lmao

Thanks! And yeah, I live at her place practically half the time (up to 3 days/week) bc she’s a 40 mile drive away, and I just wanna get enough time to see her. Long distance is so much easier when u get to spend so much time with and fuck each other every week! Plus, we go out to a bar on Tuesdays and will often end up talking up other couples or polycules to have some fun with 😈. Apparently monogamy is a kink in Seattle lmao

Hope you enjoy, too!~ ❤️

Fuck, I’m seeing my girlfriend today, and this gave me so much anticipation. Everything was just…yes. Every time I drive up to see her and stay a few days, I get this immense anticipation, this insatiable need the day of (and often the night before). This sent it into overdrive lol. We’re both switches, but we both prefer to sub, and I just…aaaaaaa. I’m glad u were able to sort things out and make up for it, and now I’m gonna need to get ready quickly so I can get there as soon as possible!