it’s actually normal (and maybe even friggin cool as fuck???) for ur reptile brain to scream at u to bail on a relationship at the first sign of conflict, disagreement, or less than perfectly mess-free vulnerability. no i will not research attachment theory no i do not know what avoidance is, i am not a nerd & have therefore never researched anything in my LiFE & wisely avoid learning new woreds like the plAGUE!!
happy to hear! i know easier said than done (speaking from firsthand exp) but comparison really does no one any good, romantic relationships & intimacy are about personal joy & happiness for the individuals involved which is going to look very different person to person, including dating timeline.
but i get it tho, when i’m single i can’t help getting a little jealous of my friends who have more success on the apps or are sluttier than me (even though i don’t even usually dig casual sex! but idk there’s a certain fomo there and definitely some dumb internalized Male Bullshit). and even if you’ve already been in a relationship, it can be hard to imagine/believe in the next serious bond in that way until that person happens into your life! so that’s super normal even across experience levels.
that’s possible but as someone who jumps to worst possible scenarios/conclusions because of Bad Brain, i say from experience that strikes me as jumping to a worst possible conclusion. like i gush about my friends and comrades to people in my life including partners, it’s just cuz i like/love the ppl im gushing abt. but again i don’t know your work friends overall vibe, or the overall vibe of her relaysh.
also echoing wht other post said that she cld be signalling she’s unavailable but still values u as a work friend/friend in general, common way for people (especially women to men) to convey that.
me & nu-boo are reading a toni morrison novel together and huh this woman was pretty goated at writing fiction wasn’t she?
our personal dramas & troubles, so big in our hearts…but our hearts so small in the world
& teh world so small…in the universe
idk if i’m missing context but she probably just values you as a person and has a healthy enough relaysh with her partner that she can communicate that. are you afraid he’d get jealous or something?
oh fuck yeah, dude
this is just like in wizard of earthsea when Ged releases his shadow b/c of his damn HUBRIS!! 
an upvote to each of you, good gentleposters! here’s to a most spirited debate in the marketplace of ideas!! 
EDIT: sorry yall i was just tryna be a rascal but these comments were friend-losing-worthy & i am truly a wretch, i retract the sentiment but leave both posts up for purposes of self crit
an upvote to each of you, good gentleposters! here’s to a most spirited debate in the marketplace of ideas!!
EDIT: sorry yall i was just tryna be a rascal but these comments were friend-losing-worthy & i am truly a wretch, i retract the sentiment but leave both posts up for purposes of self crit
honestly i’d just quit posting but then what would i do with my work downtime…
honestly i’d just quit drinking but then what would i do with muy home downtime…
the alienated fuckass’s dilemma
i was gonna curse you rname for getting my ass but to be fair you said don’t do it…
you were just trying to look out for me. like with so many disastrous things in this fucked up universe, i have only myself to blame…
The accelerationist in me prefers a flare-up over a slow burn, so I dunno.
imo things getting worse without the working class building & bolstering militant institutions of direct power just means things get worse. you need capitalism to hit a crisis point + the working class to become an actual existential threat and force to be reckoned with for revolutionary change to go down. the amerikan left is nascent at best rn (though in my most optimistic moments i think maybe we’re planting strong seeds, or at least stronger seeds than it seems at a glance), so anything that alleviates suffering and buys our class time to build the bones of something substantial is the best outcome at this juncture.
yeah it’s sad, but lying is def the best/safest option in that scenario. kind of a nightmare that it’s structured like that but whaddaya gonna do. one of many reasons i hate how fetishized therapy is in a lot of online discourse (not sexually i just mean like put on a pedestal if that wasn’t clear lmao). it’s ofc helpful for many and necessary for some, but there’s a ton of nefarious institutional flaws and fucked up barriers to access.
my brand nu boo sent me some of their creative writing yesterday. i just read it and now my chest is all fluttery & my face feels weirdly warm, what’s going on should i call a doctor about this? 
big special s/o to the working class, the biggest class & most muscular too, very handsome to boot
smaller s/o to bourgeois class traitors, yall r cool too
Did your pathetic protest vote help put the Nazis in power?
nah because all third party votes added together and Kamala still lost handily for being an evil genocidal freak and a no-appeal, offers-nothing, world historic loser. thanks for asking though bud i’m happy to clarify!
yeah it’s crazy that entrapment is like built into the fabric of those intake questions lmao. really a satanic system we live under in countless ways both great and small.
the correct answer during a first sesh is ofc “huh? i’m sorry officer doctor, can you explain what ‘suicidal’ means?”
(this is a very much work-throughable issue for me i like to do a little exaggerated half-joking as a treat it helps me vent)