Trans woman - 10 years HRT

Intersectional feminist

Queer anarchist

  • 6 Posts
  • 471 Comments
Joined 3 years ago
Cake day: June 9th, 2023
  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•re: doubleposting selfies on both /c/mtf and /c/trans_joyEnglish
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    7 days ago

    This community has always allowed image content. I’ve never really considered changing that. I’m curious what folks have to say about it.

    When I first made this community I made it because I frequently browsed r/mtf and could not find a community on Lemmy that really fit with that.

    I feel really that this community has diverged in some important ways from that subreddit though, and one of those has been allowing images to be posted here. I didnt want this to be a text post only community because I felt that it was good for transfem and questioning folks to have a place to share anything they wanted to. Most of the rules revolve around this principle of protecting a safe space for transfem/questioning people. Some kinds of images are banned. But I hadn’t considered banning selfies in particular.

  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Why some trans women defend men so much?English
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    13 days ago

    Tbh I’m not a fan of how youve chosen to word this. It comes across as weirdly antagonistic towards other folks here.

    I also think that language is important and what’s being left out here is the context behind why other people are shutting you down. Patriarchy fucks with all our lives and the oppression of women as an assigned class to the advantage of men as an assigned class is real and worth discussing. But I think that how we talk about that does matter. And I can see how language could quickly devolve this subject away from the central point of class solidarity and liberation.

    Trans women have as varied opinions as any class of people. Studies consistently show that trans people as a whole are strongly left leaning and pro minority rights. Not to say that misogyny doesnt exist in trans communities but it is not uniquely common in trans communities.

  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•What do y'all think about the bi-lesbian identity?English
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    2 months ago

    I am a lesbian and I really have no desire to gatekeep what labels someone uses to describe their sexuality. It’s up to other people to convey their preferred labels to me for the purposes of clear communication. But ultimately it doesn’t really affect me at all.

    I think prioritizing the rigidity of definitions is the business of fascists. Words are not sacred. We should be the end all be all for the labels we use for our gender and sexuality, no one else should get to decide them for us.

    If the term bi-lesbian has meaning to you, that’s alright. I’m glad you’ve found a label that feels right to you.

  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoPolitical Memes@lemmy.world•Just a reminderEnglish
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    2 months ago

    The same equally goes for you. The state claims your complicity in its actions, they say they represent the American people as they slaughter innocent children around the world. The state says that you support them, that you have entrusted your power with them, that they use to evict families from their homes and take toddlers from their mothers, and send innocent people to rot in detention centers. They say this every day, claim your active support and endorsement, and yet you’ve never raised a fist, you won’t even raise your voice.

    I’m doing what I can. Its time for you to smash the ballot counting tables. No vote cast will save you, it only ever delayed the inevitable for everyone but wealthy white families. They want you to see politicians as representing you. They don’t. They want you to see the police as protecting you, they don’t. They want you to cast your ballot so they can claim your approval. The American people voted for Biden, he claimed to represent the American people while committing crimes against humanity against the Palestinian people. He claimed your vote showed your approval. Did you do anything then? Are you going to do anything now? Every day that you accept this system is another day that you uphold it.

  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•[CW: Mentions Suicide, Surgery regret] How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself?English
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    3 months ago

    Your regret is valid and understandable. We all make choices in life that we can come to regret. I am very sorry that you find yourself in the unfortunate situation of wishing you could undo something that cannot be undone.

    You are welcome to discuss this here but some of the language you use is extremely triggering and highly correlated with bigoted narratives about bottom surgery. Such as describing yourself as broken, describing your genitalia as rotting, etc. I normally allow a certain amount of this but frankly this thread was very intense and even just reading through it all to understand what was going on was quite hard. Some content warnings and perhaps a bit of consideration for other users would go a long way.

    I’m sorry you’ve had bad experiences in other communities treating you like your regret isn’t real. Your suffering is real and you have every right to talk about it here with others. A lot of gatekeeping has gone on in this thread and I am working through it now to address it.

    If anyone finds their comment has been removed by me I would encourage you to read the rules and understand that this is an inclusive community of all transfeminine people. Even if you suspect that someone is lying or misrepresenting themselves or their experiences, it is still not permissible to interrogate them in such a manner. You can always DM me or Ada if you suspect someone of showing up to cause trouble. But creating public threads to speculate on whether someone is a troll or not is just categorically unacceptable here. We have few reliable ways of emperically verifying those things out in the open. So its pointless and just promotes a hostile atmosphere of interrogation and gatekeeping.

    I’m going to leave this thread locked for a bit while things die down.

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