Who are you having your surgery done with? I’m hopeful to get gendered correctly on the phone at least once in my life time lmao
Trans woman - 10 years HRT
Intersectional feminist
Queer anarchist
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LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•first exfoliation.,...,English
9·25 days agoOuuuu I haven’t tried this brand before. Exfoliation day is always my favorite haha
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Has anyone else read The Pervert?English
5·29 days agoNo stress! 😊
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Has anyone else read The Pervert?English
7·29 days agoDoes this work contain NSFW content? If so please edit the post so the NSFW toggle is checked. Otherwise, glad you found something you enjoyed so much. I like the art style.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
People Twitter@sh.itjust.works•Outsourcing your thinking to AI is a... choice.English
3·1 month agodeleted by creator
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•I hear we're doing visibility?English
6·1 month agoAdore the overalls Ada, happy belated TDOV! 🩷 you are without a doubt one of my trans idols. Thank you for all the work you do creating and maintaining Blahaj Zone, and for co-moderating this community with me. 😊
Welcome to the Transfem community and congratulations on getting SRS! 🥰 I hope your recovery goes spectacularly and that you’re handling post-surgical care well! I had SRS over 2 years ago now and the first year of recovery was hard but SO worth it.
Hope youre having a great day! 😊
Trying hard to not be this person anymore but holy moly I say a lot of those things on a daily basis 😅
I’m happy you’ve come to this realization, it must feel nice to understand a bit more about yourselves in this way. This is absolutely a plural positive community. I hope you all feel welcome here. :)
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•What do y'all think about the bi-lesbian identity?English
6·1 month agoNot to OP, as I think they described.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•What do y'all think about the bi-lesbian identity?English
22·1 month agoI am a lesbian and I really have no desire to gatekeep what labels someone uses to describe their sexuality. It’s up to other people to convey their preferred labels to me for the purposes of clear communication. But ultimately it doesn’t really affect me at all.
I think prioritizing the rigidity of definitions is the business of fascists. Words are not sacred. We should be the end all be all for the labels we use for our gender and sexuality, no one else should get to decide them for us.
If the term bi-lesbian has meaning to you, that’s alright. I’m glad you’ve found a label that feels right to you.
The same equally goes for you. The state claims your complicity in its actions, they say they represent the American people as they slaughter innocent children around the world. The state says that you support them, that you have entrusted your power with them, that they use to evict families from their homes and take toddlers from their mothers, and send innocent people to rot in detention centers. They say this every day, claim your active support and endorsement, and yet you’ve never raised a fist, you won’t even raise your voice.
I’m doing what I can. Its time for you to smash the ballot counting tables. No vote cast will save you, it only ever delayed the inevitable for everyone but wealthy white families. They want you to see politicians as representing you. They don’t. They want you to see the police as protecting you, they don’t. They want you to cast your ballot so they can claim your approval. The American people voted for Biden, he claimed to represent the American people while committing crimes against humanity against the Palestinian people. He claimed your vote showed your approval. Did you do anything then? Are you going to do anything now? Every day that you accept this system is another day that you uphold it.
Just a reminder that liberals will never be on the side of the revolution. They’re always going to say that voting for them is what matters. It’s all a sham to prevent you from actually doing anything.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Conservatives: Libz don't even know what a woman is. Also Conservatives: *constantly engage with purely synthetic creations thinking that they are women.*English
337·2 months agoAre you implying this is AI? I’m confused, there are no hallmarks in this image of AI.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•[CW: Mentions Suicide, Surgery regret] How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself?English
181·2 months agoYour regret is valid and understandable. We all make choices in life that we can come to regret. I am very sorry that you find yourself in the unfortunate situation of wishing you could undo something that cannot be undone.
You are welcome to discuss this here but some of the language you use is extremely triggering and highly correlated with bigoted narratives about bottom surgery. Such as describing yourself as broken, describing your genitalia as rotting, etc. I normally allow a certain amount of this but frankly this thread was very intense and even just reading through it all to understand what was going on was quite hard. Some content warnings and perhaps a bit of consideration for other users would go a long way.
I’m sorry you’ve had bad experiences in other communities treating you like your regret isn’t real. Your suffering is real and you have every right to talk about it here with others. A lot of gatekeeping has gone on in this thread and I am working through it now to address it.
If anyone finds their comment has been removed by me I would encourage you to read the rules and understand that this is an inclusive community of all transfeminine people. Even if you suspect that someone is lying or misrepresenting themselves or their experiences, it is still not permissible to interrogate them in such a manner. You can always DM me or Ada if you suspect someone of showing up to cause trouble. But creating public threads to speculate on whether someone is a troll or not is just categorically unacceptable here. We have few reliable ways of emperically verifying those things out in the open. So its pointless and just promotes a hostile atmosphere of interrogation and gatekeeping.
I’m going to leave this thread locked for a bit while things die down.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•ciswomen have periods and transfemmes have a blue period: atlest a few dysphoric days each month...English
3·2 months agoYou are correct haha. I’m actually just starting injections this week after taking oral HRT for the past decade. My ADHD brain got my words mixed up lol
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•ciswomen have periods and transfemmes have a blue period: atlest a few dysphoric days each month...English
5·2 months agoYou dont get to “alternative take” transfeminine experiences about our bodies and the feelings we have about them.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•ciswomen have periods and transfemmes have a blue period: atlest a few dysphoric days each month...English
6·2 months agoDo you normally celebrate when a cisgender woman tells you she has something wrong with her body such that she doesn’t get periods anymore? Oh, so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this condition, but thank god you dont get periods right?
Nah, you wouldnt. And if you would then maybe youre just a very insensitive person. Periods suck no doubt and yet when women dont get them, barring being pregnant, its often a sign that something is wrong. Irregularities aside, cause having them on a monthly schedule is far from universal.
Many transfeminine people experience intense dysphoria over their inability of conceiving and delivering children. Its a debilitating life long struggle that we each find our own peace with. Periods are a routine part of having a reproductive system that is capable of conceiving and delivering children. They are controlled/influenced by balances of hormones in the body. Many transfeminine people take feminizing hormones, the same ones that influence the menstrual cycle. Some transfeminine people report experiencing similar symptoms, especially often when taking hormones via injection which introduces a hormonal cycle.
I didnt get a chance to read your previous comment before it was deleted but I can surmise what you said. This is a space for transfeminine people first and I will absolutely not tolerate the gatekeeping of our experiences in this manner. Please read all the rules in the side bar. Be mindful of what you’re saying and keep an open mind.


Please remove the link to that subreddit. That community violates the rules about not reposting bigoted content.