

So my family was not quite as bad as yours (fewer cards, too)… that being said, you may be surprised how people bend and twist to accommodate those they’ve already decided they love. Once they forfeit those bigotries for you personally, they’ll mellow out in general. Don’t try to “educate” them, it never works. Stock advice, maybe, but homophobia/transphobia is kind of the same thing all the way down.
Translation: You don’t have to retire. Faster, serf!
But also, he can retire. Maybe I’m naive, but how is that not enough money to stop working at 67?