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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • A peacock’s tail is a flourish, something that adds to the whole without detracting.

    A cocktail combines spirits with other flavors to make them something else.

    I don’t really drink cocktails, but thr antiquated term makes sense in a particular context.

    Now looking it up, apparently the origin of the term isn’t actually known and my interpretation isn’t even in the running, but I’m saving this anyway because it’s amusing.



  • Older guy here, no kids, rarely dated at all but married now.

    Always be up front about your kid. Not first thing, but I’d say during the first date or two.

    A twelve year old is a bit easier for most men to accept, I think, as there’s less years of raising them and more of a developed person to get to know.

    Any man you’re in a committed relationship with should be willing to help you out - that’s what committed means. So one that refuses is probably not the guy for you.

    Lastly, you may not meet the one for a while, but letting them in to see how well they mesh with your son might help you figure that out.

    Its not too much to ask for at all. It’ll be a balancing act, redefining your life (and to a large extent, your son’s) and letting someone in again.

    I’m confident that you’ll find someone, and I hope you aren’t hurt in the process of finding him.


  • It’s most definitely not too late.

    I was in a similar state about fifteen years ago, and older than you at the time.

    The thing is that by not tackling the anxiety earlier, you’ve been learning how to live while anxious.

    I have IBS and had a hernia that was making things far worse. I had no idea that’s what was going on with me. I lived that way for years.

    Once it was fixed I needed to learn how to unlearn the anxiety. I’d wake up each day worrying whether it’d be a good day or a terrible ond. I’d stress about using the toilet.

    Now I’m married and have a good life.

    You’ve gotta start tackling that anxiety. Medication, therapy, self work.

    I used to think I was depressed, now I realize I was depressed about what my anxiety kept me from doing.

    Once you start to unravel the way you are, you’ll start remaking yourself into a more conscious person. It’s extremely worthwhile.