I’m so sorry for your loss. 🫂 Grief comes in waves, the stages of grief aren’t linear or sequential. Give yourself plenty of time to rest, heal, and process.

I recommend against Hawaii. It’s not exactly self sustaining since there are too many people living there. Housing/rent is crazy high so there are many homeless. Everything is much more expensive. Jobs can be hard to find. The islands are sinking. Storms still hit every season. Depending on the island, you may be dealing with volcanic eruptions and vog. And I do believe their coral reefs are bleaching. It sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Then factor in the locals, they only want locals living there and to restore their Hawaiian Kingdom, #GoHomeHaole. Best to pick somewhere else.

I don’t think they are getting paid, but they are from lemmy.world. They are known for open signups that invite trolls, power mods, conservatives, etc. The instance has a lot of US people, the kind that think democrats are leftists. I see a lot of what I didn’t like about reddit in lemmy.world.

Tankies are the biggest problem, even though most instances have defederated from them, and here we have a community dedicated to screenshots of their community where we can dunk on them even though dunking is actually really bad since tankies do it /s. By that logic shouldn’t the CSAM instances be the biggest problem? Sure most instances defederated them but they exist, along with far right instances.

EDIT: Nevermind, OP has spent weeks complaining about tankies. There is no getting through to that. I think lemmy has more worse problems than tankies. Also meanwhile on grad welcomes conservatives but it’s all good because at least they aren’t tankies right.

Nah, I’ve got a zoomer relative that has learned helplessness around computers. They have their own computer for gaming and need me to hold their hand through everything. I tell them to web search, they say they don’t understand what anything means, so I have to hold their hand through web searching to fix their problem. If something doesn’t work from steam when they double click it, they can’t figure it out. They get an error message at any point and their only solution is to bug someone else about it. I refuse to solve their problem without telling them to web search it, that is how you are supposed to learn. It’s super annoying so I started telling them “idk, google it.” They still bug others instead now.

I also have a zoomer friend older than my relative that is also a PC gamer, they are slightly better but still need people to guide them through screen share.

Wikipedia lists this as the original:

When the Nazis came for the communists, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a communist.

When they came for the trade unionists, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a trade unionist.

When they locked up the Social Democrats, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a social democrat.

When they locked up the Jews, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a Jew.

When they came for me, there was no one left to protest.