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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • My experience was that everyone was interested in knowing the gender, but no one ever had any responses other than happy ones relating to the answer. We ended up with one boy and one girl so there was an opportunity for people to comment positively and negatively for the binary genders. We had a lot of people comment on it being nice that we ended up with 1 boy and 1 girl, but I took that as getting to experience raising both binary genders. Also, everyone was excited to buy baby clothes targeting little girls and little boys. While my daughter has a “girly” side to her, she also wears hand-me-downs from my son whose clothes are not “girly.”

    I will say, I have worked hard to keep people in my life who are good people and get away from the rest (e.g., I haven’t talked with my biological mother in 20 years because she drains energy and money from everyone around her). So, that may be why my experience was different. Although, I also experienced this with strangers (e.g., people in the grocery store were happy to chat with my wife about her pregnancy regardless of whether my wife was. At least they were all nice.).








  • Is 20 enough? How tiny are your cats? I feel like 45 (a big weight lifting plate) might not be enough. Might need to screw the stand on a 36"*36" piece of plywood and put 20 on every corner. I guess it depends on the size and weight of your tree, though. 25 years ago we had a cat climb nearly to the top of a 10-12’ tree (seemed like 12, but maybe just seems like that now). Anyway, the cat didn’t just stay on the trunk and we had to make adjustments to prevent a tip. Think we switched stands to something more heavy duty.