I thought this was a Mickey7 post until I read the username.

I don’t have an office job, so it’s all good haha. I work in the medical field and have not needed to touch anything like that in years lol.

If it’s that simple for people to participate, that sounds good. I’m glad my era of group projects is over, at least! No more classroom work for me!

Haha I’m really glad I missed out on that sort of era tbh. Sounds like a bit of a nightmare.

While I appreciate you providing alternatives, the fact of the matter is that most of your random classmates are unlikely to be interested in using or figuring out how to use some sort of obscure program/website.

Yeah this was it for me. Best app ever…no bullshit ads or anything…and I was really upset that Reddit forcefully killed it for money. However, I did find that the app Red Reader is allowed to exist because of its accessibility features for the visually impaired. It’s a good browsing experience…simple and no ads or BS.

I still do browse Reddit because a lot of the communities I visit on there either don’t exist on Lemmy or are too underpopulated for much of any content. Please don’t tell me to just “post more content” myself. The point is I often don’t have much content for the communities I visit. Like it or not, a community with 10 active members just isn’t enough to have much to participate with, even if I am the one posting most of the content. For example, there is a tattoo community I stumbled across on Lemmy. But I only have so many tattoos. So obviously I cannot fill the page with endless more content.

Looks amazing!

I swear I clicked post on a comment here, but idk wtf happened to it. Doesn’t look like it was removed in the modlog so I’m confused.

Couple of things…what type of therapy does your therapist use? Does it seem like it’s more of a “talk therapy”? Most therapists I’ve encountered are like this and I have found it not overly helpful. While they are nice for a listening ear, it’s hard to find enough substance for me to be able to help myself in practice. What has helped me was finding a therapy program with a specific therapy modality…so I have a way that I can apply it irl. I’d wager that the therapy type is probably less important than the structure. Many therapists claim to use CBT or DBT or whatever else, but when you actually get to the sessions, they don’t. In my experience, many are just talk therapists that use vague concepts for these, which I have then had difficulty figuring out ways to help myself irl. Obviously easier said than done to find a therapist with more structure, but that is probably the first direction I’d go tbh. You also have to be very specific and explicit about what you need from therapy in order for them to be able to help you…what you wrote here is great.

Another thing is…have you tried any medications for anxiety by any chance? While therapy definitely is going to be able to do the most heavy lifting, sometimes you need just a little bit more help or a little bit more of a push with psychiatric medications. It’s scary, but they are given to millions of people and are not a huge risk. You can always stop them (slowly, not cold turkey) if you feel like they are not helping you. It’s not like someone is going in and permanently altering your brain like with surgery.

Best of luck, OP.

I had this to a mild degree as an older child, but slowly faded over time to where I haven’t in a long long while. Do you know specifically why you have recently developed this fear? Figuring out why you are afraid is going to be the key to solving your issue.

Call me a shill, but that’s why I always used Google Docs when I was in school. Things are instantly saved and I can easily access them on other devices. It was also always how we collaborated on group projects with the ability of multiple people to simultaneously edit power points in a collaborative project.

I don’t have use for word processing anymore, but I used Google Docs from like 2012-2020.

Definitely helped a ton because my laptop in grad school would randomly blue screen a lot for no discernible reason. Did that when it was new too and Dell support was no help. I have a suspicion that the processor was actually faulty on a hardware level straight from the factory…as it would have problems both in Windows AND Linux that were “fixed” by dramatically underclocking the CPU. All hardware stress tests would always pass. :/

Anyway, sorry for the random tangent lol.

Good luck scooping up a motherfucking house centipede. They move at like five billion miles per hour.

Yeah I was told that recently in therapy. Sometimes you are just going to have bad days. That’s ok. That’s part of being human, not a failing on your part.

Yes and no. It’s unrealistic to expect to only ever be happy. Ebbs and flows of mood and emotions are a completely natural and unavoidable process. It’s for those more extreme ebbs and flows that are cause for concern.

It’s ok to be unstable. We just have to work on getting the right gear for when we fall. I’m trying to upgrade mine rn haha.

Thank you! I felt like I was mentally present with my therapist as well, but I guess it wasn’t quite enough lol. One of my group mates was “graduating” and he told us he made a DBT wall. I honestly thought it was a fantastic idea and am “stealing” it to hopefully remind myself of the techniques and ideas for after I’m done.

I think we have something similar. It’s called “partial hospitalization”. It’s basically a step above what I describe but below being entirely trapped in the hospital unable to leave.

I am not surprised the group stuff actually clicked though. Individual therapy once every two weeks is honestly a joke for real issues. You spend forty minutes just giving a status update on your life and then the session is over. It does nothing for actual skill-building. Those IOPs are a grueling time-sink, but they force you to actually sit with the garbage in your head instead of just ignoring it until your next fifty-minute slot.

You really hit the nail on the head at why standard timeframe individual therapy seems to have just sucked for me. Therapy appointments never coincided with issues…and then it’s basically just tell me about the past two weeks. “Ok bye.” While therapists in my experience have always been eager to try to give input to me…I just haven’t been able to have as much direct guidance as I needed. I’ll cry about a bad day to them, but the suggestions given afterwards never seemed to help me enough.

Then I went the other way and bought a comprehensive DBT workbook. Good lord! It has helped me too, but over time I realized that it was way too dense and actually gave way TOO many techniques for it to be effective in my life. These bite sized, but 3x/week DBT chunks make it a lot easier to try to add in skills to daily life.

Just be careful with that “needing a therapist less” talk from your provider. It sounds great in theory, but in my experience, that is usually just insurance-speak for trying to kick people out of the system once they are stable enough to not be an immediate problem.

Well it’s a bit different like that for me. I often complain to her about the cost of things and why all of my therapy and psychiatry appointments are not great for me monetarily. I have a crazy high deductible plan, so it is very expensive for me to see providers so often. The IOP program is a temporary hit to my financials (which I’m in a great position for) to potentially actually get some better help and ways to cope long term…as opposed to my current ineffective methods that still cost a lot of money overall.

I actually DON’T want to be in therapy long term. I want to be able to cope with life better myself. I would still obviously be open to seeing one in times of struggle, but I want to actually be able to have enough positive change in my life where it isn’t really needed as much anymore, if at all.

I have regrettably made suicidal gestures in my life or even been so distressed that I have impulsively wanted to do things like crash my car full speed into a telephone pole.

But a particular thing happened a few months ago…not really related to my life…rather a podcast I found and began listening to. Something clicked in my brain and I am now absolutely fucking terrifying of death. I really really don’t want to fucking not exist anymore and I know that it is inescapable. I started looking around at others in the background of my daily life like…

“What the fuck are we even doing here? Doesn’t everyone realize that we are all going to die? Doesn’t everyone realize that they will just cease to exist one day? I don’t want to die. Everything we are going right now is pointless and a waste of time. Why is everyone on the planet not all scrambling to figure out how to not cease to exist forever?”

I can’t stop thinking about it, really. It’s terrifying.

Please don’t reply to me with copium about how you love that you’re going to become dirt because it’s part of the earth or some shit. I’m not interested and it doesn’t work on me.

But I think I kind of get you, OP.

Uhhh the username to the screenshotted post is concerning

That one user is a bit dramatic and unhinged…but to have a counterpoint to the OP, some people just aren’t animal people. And that’s ok (unless you want to murder it for no reason…that’s another issue). They probably make up a larger portion of people than you’d think. This sort of stuff won’t work on them.

I would probably put myself in the non animal lover camp. I just don’t like most animals… especially dogs that jump all over you or bark incessantly . Part of that is a training issue, but another part of it is just their nature. My brother has a large dog. She is sweet and they have her trained well…but you can tell she is exercising extreme restraint against her nature to not pummel into you with excitement. On occasion, she doesn’t listen.

There are a few pets that I have adored and loved, but they are more the exception rather than the rule. And that’s ok.

Anyway, the TL;DR of this is, like anything, this isn’t a one size fits all. It won’t be applicable to a larger population of people than you think. I feel the same way about people touting that exercise cures everyone of mental health issues. Some? Sure. Anywhere remotely close to all? No.

Well…I am only one person, but if it adds to anything, I have literally never cared. Not when I first got internet as a pre teen and not now.