I can’t believe another week has passed by. My kid has reached the developmental milestone of being able to bring me a towel to the shower after I forgot one. This weekend he saw a horse up close for the first time and was like, “horses are crazy” guess they are bigger than he ever imagined.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads. I got my husband some books that are dad related because he once mentioned most of the books we have mention mom and not dad.
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Sounds similar to my mental chatter about our house.
No one I know knows about this website yet, but I might delete some identifying comments in the future because I have faith they might one day.
He is not a pediatrician but is in Family Medicine. Still, I have a friend who is in pediatrics and even she is not as intense. She actually has a copy of a recording I took of him yelling at me and he said all those things I mentioned in it. The language definitely gave me pause, it was so toxic. Things are otherwise back to normal. I told my friend I am not compromising and not going to raise my current child differently because of hope for future children.
I really do think it is all normal. I think doctors also hear a very small glimpse into other people’s lives. I am sure a lot of people tell him their kids are sleeping fine. I have also seen his coworker, who says their kid sleeps through the night, let their kid cry in their crib while they swam in a pool. It just isn’t for me. I am told I am too responsive but I see them all as not responsive enough.
The military is such a problem. My other friend says he is taking out work stress on me. They are so demanding of him he doesn’t really have a lot of energy at home. Still not an excuse to behave the way he did. Also I feel like that is why we need to go by how I raise the more because I am home more. He is about to leave for a couple months and that has happened multiple times already… so of course our kid is needy to me and I am responsive to him.
Anyways, thank you. You are not coming off too strong. It was an intense situation and your response to it feels like how I felt, so it’s nice to hear.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. I believe that is just how it is as well.
We have been having a variation of this argument since our child has been old enough to be sleep trained. He is very for cry it out and I am very not for it. Therefore the reason why he wakes up at night is because I answer his cries.
The problem with the “If your doctor isn’t concerned” part is that my husband IS a doctor. So whichever way he decides is the right way, is the right way. It’s endlessly frustrating. I was a nanny for years before this, but I am not considered the authority on childcare in our relationship. I believe this is fully a relationship issue and not a sleep issue.
He also told me if I go in the room to get our kid he will not have more kids with me. I went in to get him.
But our kid is doing pretty good with sleep in my opinion! He wakes up once a night usually and I have to help him back to sleep, takes a few minutes. He stays on his own floor bed until the sun comes up and sometimes I can get him to nap in my bed for a bit. He goes to bed so late though, but he isn’t a terror. I am up anyways.
For a bit it was so hard for me too and I did go on medication as well. I was considering going back on them this week after what happened with my neighbor passing last week. To have that weaponized against me is so cruel. Rough week.
Anyways, I wish we lived in a group where everyone helped each other a little more. It’s been a lot. We are military and moved in the last year so it is really just me and him and this child. Thank you for making a community on here and giving me a place to write essays.
My husband is very upset that our child doesn’t sleep better and thinks it is my fault. He apparently should be always sleeping through the night and also sleeping way longer than he does. Our kid is not two yet.
So that was a big fight this weekend. He told me I should go on meds so I can handle hearing our kid cry more. Not happening.
But today was better. We got a blackstone grill and also went to chick fil a. They have this thing where you can surrender your phone to them while you eat and if you do you get a free ice cream. I got the free ice cream and me and my child shared it. Highlight of my day.
I agree with all this… it could work.
The first three letters of this first and last name spell Isa Car. Is a car.
This is the first time I have seen someone reference the decade as the 10’s and I feel weird about it.
The 20’s last century seemed cooler.