If people are actively excluding somebody for being themselves, especially in a workplace, that is a problem that needs addressed.
It’s one thing if you’re being yourself and not being respectful at all, such as violating somebody’s space or taking up their time excessively, it’s another to silently shun somebody because they perceivably “went their whole lives being catered to”.
That’s discrimination. You said it yourself, “But don’t cry about it when no one else wants to accept that kind of thing.”
Not accepting is discrimination. You can communicate your needs, such as a need for focus or a reduction in non-work conversation, without being a dick.
Avoiding is another level of discrimination. If you don’t like someone or you are uncomfortable talking to someone, then say so instead of contributing to the culture of discrimination that they face.
Communicate your needs instead of acting like you don’t owe people basic respect because they were perceivably catered to… because they are different.
You can very briefly and politely say to them that you don’t wish for small talk, or you can tell someone who isn’t on your team to not engage you in conversation because you want to focus during work.
Being direct is better than looking away, walking away, and pretending to be busy whenever they come around you. That has the potential for real hurt.
What if everywhere you walked in, everywhere you worked at, you got that sort of reaction from others. Masking or not masking. Whether you are being yourself or being somebody you’re not to please others? Have you ever experienced that?
Can you even imagine how isolating that must feel?
I never said to do any of those things. I said that people who want these things also need to realize, that it’s not everyone elses job to be their life-interpreter for them, and cater to their needs.
I have my needs not met all the time in public settings. It sucks, but that’s life. Everyone is doing the same thing.
I’m not sure what experiences you have had where you were ever in a situation where a disabled person came to you looking for in-depth support, but that isn’t the norm.
You can very easily set a boundary with others outside of your team, but realize that not supporting somebody on your team and setting them up to succeed can cause a negative outcome. You don’t need to hold their hand, just explain what they don’t understand or find someone who can.
I have my needs not met all the time in public settings. It sucks, but that’s life. Everyone is doing the same thing.
Everybody should have their needs met and that is an ideal that is worth striving for.
If you’re not called or have it in you to help support disabled people, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not discrimination. But I will say that being a good neighbor and a friend to others is something most people notice and respect. Even the smallest acts of kindness towards disabled people can be appreciated more than you know.
You don’t need to spend effort to be kind, depending on your disposition. Thanks for engaging.
If people are actively excluding somebody for being themselves, especially in a workplace, that is a problem that needs addressed.
It’s one thing if you’re being yourself and not being respectful at all, such as violating somebody’s space or taking up their time excessively, it’s another to silently shun somebody because they perceivably “went their whole lives being catered to”.
That’s discrimination. You said it yourself, “But don’t cry about it when no one else wants to accept that kind of thing.”
Not accepting is discrimination. You can communicate your needs, such as a need for focus or a reduction in non-work conversation, without being a dick.
Someone avoiding a person is not discrimination. People are not entitled to other peoples’ time or patience. That’s what I’m trying to say here.
Avoiding is another level of discrimination. If you don’t like someone or you are uncomfortable talking to someone, then say so instead of contributing to the culture of discrimination that they face.
Communicate your needs instead of acting like you don’t owe people basic respect because they were perceivably catered to… because they are different.
No it’s not. Lol.
Not every person deserves an answer for every action around them. I’m sorry, but that’s just not realistic.
You can very briefly and politely say to them that you don’t wish for small talk, or you can tell someone who isn’t on your team to not engage you in conversation because you want to focus during work.
Being direct is better than looking away, walking away, and pretending to be busy whenever they come around you. That has the potential for real hurt.
What if everywhere you walked in, everywhere you worked at, you got that sort of reaction from others. Masking or not masking. Whether you are being yourself or being somebody you’re not to please others? Have you ever experienced that?
Can you even imagine how isolating that must feel?
I never said to do any of those things. I said that people who want these things also need to realize, that it’s not everyone elses job to be their life-interpreter for them, and cater to their needs.
I have my needs not met all the time in public settings. It sucks, but that’s life. Everyone is doing the same thing.
I’m not sure what experiences you have had where you were ever in a situation where a disabled person came to you looking for in-depth support, but that isn’t the norm.
You can very easily set a boundary with others outside of your team, but realize that not supporting somebody on your team and setting them up to succeed can cause a negative outcome. You don’t need to hold their hand, just explain what they don’t understand or find someone who can.
Everybody should have their needs met and that is an ideal that is worth striving for.
If you’re not called or have it in you to help support disabled people, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not discrimination. But I will say that being a good neighbor and a friend to others is something most people notice and respect. Even the smallest acts of kindness towards disabled people can be appreciated more than you know.
You don’t need to spend effort to be kind, depending on your disposition. Thanks for engaging.