Smell was actually one explanation I thought people reading my comment would think of. I start each day with a shower and wear deodorant, even applying it a second time during the day if I happen to have been active or sweaty. When I’ve worked up a sweat at work or whatnot or if I’ve swam in a lake or pool, I shower afterward. I hope I don’t need to mention this, but I also do wipe thoroughly after using the toilet. I also don’t smoke cigarettes or weed.
With your story of the smoker, that kind of makes me even more inclined to think it’s not smell since I’m apparently light-footed enough to accidentally sneak up on and startle people when I approach them; this has happened a number of times. If they don’t notice a smell or sound when I’m right next to them, then I’m probably not emitting either of those strong enough to be sensed close up. Additionally, my barren experience on dating apps, for example, wouldn’t be affected by smell.
I don’t have any family that I would consider trustworthy on the matter.
I am glad it is not the smell :) As I said, maybe you are too intense for the general public. That is a matter of the society you are living in. Every society has different personal space areas. For example there is a huge difference between the personal space of a German and a Spaniard. One has to observe these things and try to adapt to them if acceptance is the priority. Try analysing how the people around you interact and compare it with how you do. You can also try to let new people come to you and just be smiling( but not looking intensely to them) and show you are open to conversation.
Regarding the dating apps, that is a different monster. I would not put so much thought into it. I am a very social person and easily make friends, but on dating apps I mostly found creeps and the dynamic was always strange and a lot of ghosting happened. I don’t know how it is nowadays, but I am sure it did not improve.
Try to find a club based on your hobbies. Maybe you like to hike, find a hiking club or group. Or maybe you are a gamer, go to gamer shops and have some interaction there. You will eventually find your tribe. Sometimes we are just too different from the ones in our immediate circle, and people don’t want different. Good luck and much happiness! You will figure it out and you will find your people.
Smell was actually one explanation I thought people reading my comment would think of. I start each day with a shower and wear deodorant, even applying it a second time during the day if I happen to have been active or sweaty. When I’ve worked up a sweat at work or whatnot or if I’ve swam in a lake or pool, I shower afterward. I hope I don’t need to mention this, but I also do wipe thoroughly after using the toilet. I also don’t smoke cigarettes or weed.
With your story of the smoker, that kind of makes me even more inclined to think it’s not smell since I’m apparently light-footed enough to accidentally sneak up on and startle people when I approach them; this has happened a number of times. If they don’t notice a smell or sound when I’m right next to them, then I’m probably not emitting either of those strong enough to be sensed close up. Additionally, my barren experience on dating apps, for example, wouldn’t be affected by smell.
I don’t have any family that I would consider trustworthy on the matter.
I am glad it is not the smell :) As I said, maybe you are too intense for the general public. That is a matter of the society you are living in. Every society has different personal space areas. For example there is a huge difference between the personal space of a German and a Spaniard. One has to observe these things and try to adapt to them if acceptance is the priority. Try analysing how the people around you interact and compare it with how you do. You can also try to let new people come to you and just be smiling( but not looking intensely to them) and show you are open to conversation.
Regarding the dating apps, that is a different monster. I would not put so much thought into it. I am a very social person and easily make friends, but on dating apps I mostly found creeps and the dynamic was always strange and a lot of ghosting happened. I don’t know how it is nowadays, but I am sure it did not improve.
Try to find a club based on your hobbies. Maybe you like to hike, find a hiking club or group. Or maybe you are a gamer, go to gamer shops and have some interaction there. You will eventually find your tribe. Sometimes we are just too different from the ones in our immediate circle, and people don’t want different. Good luck and much happiness! You will figure it out and you will find your people.