context: i met this girl on tinder who’s is on the spectrum, we talked for a bit and then exchanged our ig accounts, but she hasnt replied since. I dont understand what happened, if shes just busy, needs time or lost interest. I have no way to tell and im too scared to ask. What should I do?
Personally, I’d send one more message asking to meet for a coffee date. Maybe frame it as a standing offer she can claim in the future if she doesn’t have the capacity for it at the moment.
And then move on with your life and don’t wait around expecting a reply.
It shows interest, lets her reply in her own time and if the interest is shared lets you become more than just another chain of messages on tinder.
Pro tip for the future: I always exchange cat/pet pics after switching off a dating app. My cat is cuter than me so might as well use that to my advantage! As a bonus I get more pet pics for my collection!
well, i’d suggest you keep waiting for her to message you first, so long as you’re okay with never talking to her again. alternatively, you could just message her, not even to ask why the long silence, but just to strike up a new conversation. share a fun fact or something, idk.
but then im afraid of coming off as annoying or even creepy. I dont want to break her barriers just bc i want to talk to her, maybe she needs some time. I wrote her and she didnt even respond
People randomly stop writing. Just let her go and find the next one. Maybe after like a week or two, ask what’s going on.
very unlikely ill find someone else, im not very confindent about that. Since this happens once in a blue moon for me. Dating has always been very hard for me
Online dating is brutal and something I learned to avoid. But if you go that route, don’t make it more than it is. If you think of any part of it as a once in a blue moon opportunity, you’re going to go through hell with nothing to show for it. For both practical results and your mental health, it can’t feel important. When you’re lonely and trying to find someone, it’s really hard to get into that mentality, but it’s crucial.
A match is nothing. Meeting up for the first time is barely interesting. Don’t expect anything from it. Don’t get your hopes up. It’s literally just a conversation. So go into it looking to have a fun conversation. Having fun with it is winning because it makes you more fun to be around, and even if you only have fun conversations you’re still having fun.
Fun is the goal. If you end up making a friend or two out of it, that’s a bonus. You might meet even more people through those new friends. Keep at it long enough and the numbers work in your favor. But that could be a while, so this is just some fun thing you do, like your daily Duolingo lesson. Neither is that serious or useful … but kinda. ish.
