Made this one somewhat last minute, but here goes- my reccomendations for this week are a yuri “mystery” VN that’s near and dear to my heart (that goes into processing grief) though it’s been a while since I last played it, and a cute and sloppy (not bad sloppy) manga about crossdressing (and if you ask me is honestly at least kinda genderfuckery).

I figured I’d also add BonnieBugsy’s “Ranma Lazuli” fanfic series (available on Ao3) to make it a triple feature because why the hell not. The two fics I can recommend (not having completed the other large fic yet though I’m sure it would deserve equal recommendation) are pretty near and dear to me as well.

CONTENT WARNINGS

SeaBed: processing grief Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy: some chapters, particularly the extras, can be particularly suggestive/R18+ Ranma Lazuli: for the two fanfics specifically I’m discussing, “Skies of Blue, Red Roses Too” covers dysphoria and abusive family circumstances, with the premise of the titular Ranma escaping these and finding a place where she can be and grow into herself. “I of the Storm,” in contrast, deals with the abusive and unhealthy dynamics of that “place where nothing ever gets better” from the perspective of someone still living within it- Akane- who herself, also has to deal with her anger and the consequences of (being a victim, but also perpetrator of) abuse, apathy, and past mistakes, while moving past that environment herself.

Premise and things I liked about (SeaBed)

Sachiko and Takako were childhood friends and lovers, but unknown circumstances tore them apart. Now they have to piece together the puzzle, as Sachiko keeps hallucinating about Takako, and Takako deals with memory issues of her own.

Personally, Seabed can come across as a bit of a slog (but in a good way- and in a way appropriate to the themes of grief, of mental processing and memory issues, etc). And it can be very heavy. I played it during a time when I was dealing with grief among other things myself and I loved it- I intend to play it again someday (ideally soon), but needless to say it won’t be for everyone.

Premise and things I liked about (Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy)

Admittedly, this is just comfy, queer (IMO), somewhat suggestive (YMMV, if it were just up to me I’d not even consider it NSFW but it’s definitely toeing a line and considering cultural and even circumstantial differences of different online spaces- well yea) and sappy light-hearted romance. Iori is a crossdressing boy(? very eggy if you ask me), and Hazuki is a handsome girl. Needless to say gender is a fuck.

The extra chapters (generally noticeable as something like “chapter 23.5” instead of being an outright “chapter 23” for instance) can be even moreso questionably/maybe “NSFW/18+” (though if you ask me that’s all “western puritanism and backwardness/regressiveness” which they then infected many other parts of the world with)

Premise and things I liked about (BonnieBugsy's 'Ranma Lazuli' fanfic series)

The two “Ranma Lazuli” fics I can recommend (the others I either haven’t read yet or are very short) are both what I would describe as “coming of age/graduation(?)” plots, wherein Ranma moves from her abusive, overwhelming, demanding upbringing to the welcoming and progressive Beach City from Steven Universe (no knowledge of either series is necessary IMO to enjoy these fics, that said) and is finally able to develop within such a healthier environment, and Akane comes to terms with and breaks free of the fallout and that unhealthy environment in her own way, in her own separate life.

Both fics, I feel, correlate with my own defining experiences on many levels- whether it be Ranma’s growth and the liberating feeling of finding a positive, comfy space and escaping the small, shitty, abusive world she was raised in prior, or in Akane’s own growth and rejection of that same small world, as well as the permanence of one’s actions having come from and having been a part of what made that world so small and unhealthy to begin with, and growing past that and coming to terms with it.

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  • gaystyleJoker [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    5·
    12 days ago

    hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i’ll add you to the list!

    the list as it stands:

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    ​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

  • AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    33·
    17 days ago

    So, my gal pal dug up this lesbian magazine from Weimar era Germany called Die Freundin (“the girl friend” or “the gal pal”). And it turns out it was trans inclusive and had articles written by trans women advocating for their liberation. The classified section had ads were women were looking for maid training or a puppygirl.

    This was published in 1926.

    THEY TOOK THIS FROM YOU

  • Carcharodonna [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    24·
    17 days ago

    Trans megas are such a wholesome window into the lives of people who aren’t very different from me. I’ve been socially isolated most of my life and have serious issues with not feeling connected to people, so reading updates about people’s lives like this is very helpful and makes me feel at least a little more connected to others. Just wanted to say thanks for that.

  • Angel [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    23·
    19 days ago

    Got invited to the final stage of the interview for the trans clinic job (it’s because of woke and DEI obviously)

    This interview is with the person who’d actually be my boss, but I already interviewed the person who serves as her boss specifically.

    Let’s hope this goes well 😬

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    18·
    16 days ago

    Sometimes people joke about trans affirming misogyny and I had that happen to me today and it still fucking sucked.

    I was talking to someone in a professional capacity where at the barest minimum I was an equal peer in the field, and in some areas probably more experienced and essentially a guest presenting on my specific subject matter.

    And I’m thinking “why is this old guy being so condescending, disrespectful and just outright critical? This has never happened before…oh…fuck you”

    • Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
      11·
      16 days ago

      Even though I knew it was going to happen, it actually shocked me how much less competent people assume you are. It was super apparent when I had a customer facing job that people respected me less and less as I got more feminine.

      Even this friend I’ve known for 5+ years pre-transition now wants to micromanage me every time I have a computer issue, he was never like that before. doggirl-sweat

      • Thallo [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        14·
        16 days ago

        Tbh a lot of it even comes from people being supportive, too. A lot of it comes from inside the house, so to speak.

        Before I transitioned, people used to use all kinds of positive adjectives to describe me, but now the most common one I get is “pretty”

        Which would be cool if it were true, but there are other qualities to praise femmes for too.

        • Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
          12·
          16 days ago

          Relatable, people are definitely kinder and more supportive in general, but at the same time I don’t think they respect me as much as they did before, if that makes sense.

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      8·
      16 days ago

      god I wish I was a man

      I really don’t want to deal with the bullshit from being trans but even if I “pass” or whatever I still have to deal with that. ugh.

  • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    19 days ago

    hahah whoopsie. i might have accidentally gave some signals i didn’t mean to to a friend of mine i’m not into and i think she just asked me out blob-no-thoughts hahaha oh fuck

  • CrookedSerpent [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    15 days ago

    A friend who I only hung out with when around my other, closer, friends is crashing out over me because I’m a “tankie” and because of a 6 year age gap with my new partner (proof that I am a goomer). In reality. Not online. This shit can’t be real… Please God, destroy twitter. I’m begging you.

  • DragonBallZinn [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    17 days ago

    This is a super dumb question but does anyone know when I’m ‘allowed’ to start using he/they pronouns? Literally I have thought about using them solely out of a sense of curiosity and how I mesh with it, and I am not dysphoric about being a man.

    Recently I met this masc leaning non-binary person I really vibe with and I can’t help but think “maybe I might have he/they as a better fit” but I don’t want to overstep any boundaries.

  • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    16·
    14 days ago

    It’s me, your mom. Don’t forget to take your meds, sit up straight, eat your breakfast, stay hydrated, and brush your hair stalin-approval

  • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    14 days ago

    been stuck with this omnipresent anxiety over the last several months that something unimaginably bad is going to happen very soon now and I don’t know what but I can’t shake it

    something bad and something global. idk what. national being trans ban? massive disease outbreak that makes covid look like the sniffles? super deadly heat wave? idk what but something very bad is going to happen very soon that will ruin or end my life and idk what anymore

  • Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
    14·
    19 days ago

    It kinda crept up on me since it’s probably a change that’s happened over many months, but my waist is kinda snatched now. Last spring I didn’t like the idea of wearing anything cropped because I thought it made me look a bit boxy and shapeless, but I’ve gone from disliking it to becoming more ambivalent last fall, and now I’m at a point where I think shorter tops look great on me cat-trans Estrogen my beloved.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      15·
      18 days ago

      I know what you mean, especially with the news and shit.

      For what it’s worth, hegemonic patriarchy has a very specific view of Femininity. It’s very white, it’s tied to a specific body type, it’s tied to all of our oppression as women. Some women practice lateral violence in the hopes that by fitting in to that system of oppression that they’ll have a position of security in that hierarchy. Some just have internalized misogyny, some really are just haters and haven’t done any self reflection about “We CaN aLwAyS tElL” also applies to all the ways they fail to achieve hegemonic feminity- which is intentionally (for a vague hand wavey sense of intention lol) impossible to actually achieve

      Some of these women are threatened by lesbians, by tom boys, by butch, by farm girl cis women who don’t have time for lipstick or a husband after the last one died, some are threatened by women who either don’t have children by choice or can’t, etc. The list goes on, uniting all of those people with us in an understanding of inclusive and liberatory feminism threatens systems of control including some women who are at those controls

      • inTheShadowOf [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        12·
        18 days ago

        Some of these women are threatened by lesbians, by tom boys, by butch, by farm girl cis women who don’t have time for lipstick or a husband after the last one died, some are threatened by women who either don’t have children by choice or can’t, etc. The list goes on, uniting all of those people with us in an understanding of inclusive and liberatory feminism threatens systems of control including some women who are at those controls

        Yes, absolutely this. Transfems are not where it’ll stop. It’s already affecting cis women who don’t perfectly fit into the expected woman metrics. It’ll more aggressively affect queer (sexuality) women next, women who aren’t perfectly fem, of course can’t forget racism against anything not in line with white, western femininity too.

        Unfortunately for us, transfems are just the easiest entry point right now.

  • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    14·
    15 days ago

    Of course the person who unblurred captain disillusions number challenge thingy was a trans catgirl lol

    They might as well make a tier for the trans catgirls to compete in and everyone else can compete in the second place tier