I was abandoned wholly since I was very young. Tried for years to get “the people who could’ve helped” to help, even just listen, but, you know how that goes. From the age of about 27 to 34, I didn’t even have a single friend; I was truly and absolutely alone. I had my strongest period of growth then. It was severely painful, but I came out better than I started. How?
When you have no one to rely on, you must learn how to cope within yourself.
Everyone goes through stuff right? The key is in knowing ourselves well, the how’s and why’s of our personal being, while maintaining proper self esteem internally. Then, you can know how to best help yourself through it. It’s a pain management of sorts. Once one knows themselves, they can know how to care for themselves in times of struggle/angst/lonely, or whatever.
Should you have a support system? Yes, and I’m sorry that you don’t. I think all humans need themselves a support system, it’s essential. But, when you don’t have one in external life, you gotta create one inside. You’ll drown otherwise.
Gotta heal from “those who could’ve helped” because firstly, fuck them, but then you gotta help yourself alone it seems eh? If that’s the reality, feel your feelings and give yourself the love you need, and get on with learning your coping.
Life sucks, I’m sorry it sucks. Coping is one of those things that is simple to explain, but difficult to implent, not only from my own experience, but I’ve been in enough years of therapy/groups, it’s common for folks to struggle to use their silly coping skills. But it helps immensely to have the knowledge and skills ready for the worst kind of days.
Take care
I was abandoned wholly since I was very young. Tried for years to get “the people who could’ve helped” to help, even just listen, but, you know how that goes. From the age of about 27 to 34, I didn’t even have a single friend; I was truly and absolutely alone. I had my strongest period of growth then. It was severely painful, but I came out better than I started. How?
When you have no one to rely on, you must learn how to cope within yourself.
Everyone goes through stuff right? The key is in knowing ourselves well, the how’s and why’s of our personal being, while maintaining proper self esteem internally. Then, you can know how to best help yourself through it. It’s a pain management of sorts. Once one knows themselves, they can know how to care for themselves in times of struggle/angst/lonely, or whatever.
Should you have a support system? Yes, and I’m sorry that you don’t. I think all humans need themselves a support system, it’s essential. But, when you don’t have one in external life, you gotta create one inside. You’ll drown otherwise.
Gotta heal from “those who could’ve helped” because firstly, fuck them, but then you gotta help yourself alone it seems eh? If that’s the reality, feel your feelings and give yourself the love you need, and get on with learning your coping.
Life sucks, I’m sorry it sucks. Coping is one of those things that is simple to explain, but difficult to implent, not only from my own experience, but I’ve been in enough years of therapy/groups, it’s common for folks to struggle to use their silly coping skills. But it helps immensely to have the knowledge and skills ready for the worst kind of days. Take care