My thought as well. Humanizing yourself makes me think about the situation you’re in to be driving door dash and the situation I’m in to be ordering it. I ran into my diaper wipes deliverer yesterday and though should I tip? For delivery from a website, something i don’t tip for. But I made contact with the driver and I was grateful for their service in delivery. I think it’s human nature to be easier to tip light if you can forget a human person was involved
Blue Moon in the Jack Reacher series. They’re indulgent, half James bond, half Sherlock Holmes. I used to feel embarrassed reading fiction as an adult, but now I’m like hey, a book a week (or sometimes a day) of something pleasurable is way better than a book every six months of something taxing. I’ve got a toddler and I’m pregnant and I’m so glad to have this series so I never have to think about what my next read is. I’m on like book 20/30 though, so a little worried for when it ends.
It’s been so much fun to follow reacher through the technical advances of the 90s and early 2000s! Cameras everywhere, cell phones, internet, debit cards all changing his way of life book to book, really neat.
Suggestions welcome for an equally easy/engaging long series after this!
Maybe just plain ol carpenter. Like part of “cool” is unaffected or aloof. A dude or chick who builds their own home and the furniture inside? That’s just cool. A lot of the stuff listed here actually takes a decent amount of nerdiness or at least passion. While the jobs are awesome, idk that they’re the coolest.
I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.
That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.
Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.
This is great! Even at 8 weeks there’s a lot to pass, and it’s painful for days.
At 12 weeks, you can be quite overcome with grief, it’s painful, and you’re in a diaper for days while you pass clots the size of golf balls. You need a heating pad and comfort food, not to sit in your office chair and pretend nothing is happening while you grieve the loss of the future for which you had planned and sacrificed.
It’s so tough. 45k isn’t enough to cover expenses where I live (I know because we’re doing it, and if we weren’t dual income it just wouldn’t work). It doesn’t matter that my husband gets amazing retirement matching and decent benefits, because without my (admittedly small) income we couldn’t pay rent and utilities. If you want to be independent here and have a yard, you need to make more. A few years ago here you couldn’t even find an apartment with that salary, but it’s calmed down a little.
I gave my husband a bouquet of sunflowers this week for passing a certification for work. Not sure what an appropriate way is, but men deserve to receive pretty things. Not sure why we decided plants should be assigned to gender.
I just read today they’re the second largest slug!
I get the opposite. I’m like kind of high after. Definitely not a good time for me to make any decisions.
I’ve usually read standard is 6oz. Very annoying when being told to limit your consumption to a certain number of cups and then no one can agree on what a cup is or how much caffeine is in a cup in the first place.
We didn’t cause this. We live in an oligarchy. The same way you didn’t cause it if good public transportation exists where you live. Spot on with our government hating us though - goes double for anyone brown or with boobs
Yeah, my husband is always trying to get me to eat, and I’m like if this train slows down one bit, I’m done for the day. Do you want the laundry folded or not?
I’m sorry, but comparing yourself to actually physically isolated people while you were seeing people in person at work is wild. Humans are social creatures! I too loved the privacy and peace that came with covid, but if you saw people live and in person at work, you have no idea what it was like to actually quarantine at home with only screen people for companionship. It messes with your head.
That’s as dumb as them suggesting you take on a second job to cover the heightened cost of the formula, but the second job has to be donating blood, plasma, and bone marrow. The physical toll to make up that much extra nutrition, the (sometimes permanent) leaching of elements of your own body, the quantity of time to pump and properly clean and store and the cost of products, the emotional toll of sacrificing what used to be a fun part of your body to what for many is quite painful…
Sure boobs are made to make milk, but eyes are made to see. How many people do you know who wear glasses? It’s more complicated than just why not breast milk?
If women should be expected to breastfeed for 2 years, then society should be built that they can take two years off to do so. A year of breastfeeding equates to a conservative estimate of 1,800 hours, which is not far off from a full-time job that totals about 1,960 hours annually.
Agree, the children’s utility to society isn’t about money. It’s about having doctors and firemen and farmers and artists. Idc how much money you have, if the next generation is smaller, who will be the CNAs in the retirement home where the childless (and others) are spending their pensions?
I totally agree! If you can’t put out a house fire yourself, you shouldn’t have a house! Relying on strangers (the fire dept) to sacrifice their lives is so selfish.
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If I have to cover for your dialysis, don’t have kidneys! Or don’t have a job! Figure out your work life balance! It’s not fair that I have to work hours I agreed to separate from your situation when you’re not also working!
The parent is not asking for your sacrifice. If they were, you’d be able to say no as you choose. It’s your boss telling you your hours. If you don’t like your hours, negotiate.
Or, since it’s all so easy and binary to you, if this bothers you, just move work places to an office where hours are set. Just get a job where coworker coverage is set in stone in your contract. Certainly that’s as easy a life decision as whether or not to have children.
Weird that you think parents exclusively parent? Parents parent, and then we also give blood, help elderly parents and grandparents, and volunteer.
The flexibility you want to give blood should be given to parents, as well. And then if your elderly parent’s ALF calls saying your mom has a fever and they won’t let her stay there until it’s cleared up, you should be given the flexibility to leave work same as a parent.
The flexibility afforded parents to prioritize when their kids are sick and it’s illegal to leave them home alone is not the equivalent to volunteering.
I do agree with this (and yes, in the US). I have yet to ever hear about a childless person complain about the "perks"of being a working parent when they need those perks for a different sick family member. It’s only ever been because they think they should get equal priority for a music festival, or regular down time, or spending time with dogs or friends.
It’s a bad take, because it’s a false equivalency. In my (albeit limited) experience, if you’re childless, but you ask for the same “perks” to also take care of a family member, you are afforded it.
And I think if childless people were saying my grandmother has a fever and her ALF won’t keep her today because of it, they’d be allowed the exact same remote allowances that a parent in their office is afforded. But if a childless person wants the same number of hours regardless of why, that’s not the same flexibility.
And also, what women thinks, “the best part of sex for me is the mess at the end! The more I have to clean up after, the better, especially in this time of no running water!”