So it was sexting with adults? Consenting adults? Consenting adults he didn’t have a power imbalance over?

Guy sounds like a saint compared to the people on capitol hill right now.

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Maybe I’m getting old but these things used to be something the middle class could afford. Sending your kid to a 12k a year school was something a middle class family could do 30 years ago. Not even upper middle, upper middle would be going to the 40k a year school or whatever. Middle class used to mean going to another state for a week during summer vacation, staying in a hotel and visiting a theme park, or road trips to a national park in your (own!) RV. Being able to put a new bathroom in on your 3 bed house in suburbia, or sending the kids to summer camp. If that sounds rich to you then where do you think that wealth went? Billionaires have been bleeding people so dry that a nice little treat or maybe a splurge for most college educated folks from 30 years ago sounds like some impossible luxury today apparently.

Guess we have different definitions of being rich, clearly. I don’t begrudge people who can afford a vacation or a nice fridge when billionaires are flying their private jets to their seventeenth home and their yachts have yachts. Graham owns a boat too, how bougie!

So was this restaurant a national chain? His mom owned a business in an industry with famously slim margins and that’s supposed to fail him in some purity test? His parents aren’t venture capitalists, bankers, politicians, technocrats, or corporate billionaires. Anyone who has to work to live is working class. This idea that he has to be “poor enough” and “low class enough” is such bullshit. If his parents were homeless junkies you can bet it would be spun just as negatively. You got anything to say about the actual shit he’s running on?

I was responding to someone saying he had no policies, when he has an entire list on his website.

He doesn’t have any policies.

Oh I see you haven’t checked out his website. Here you go

https://www.grahamforsenate.com/platform

Take on waste and corruption at the Pentagon… Massive, massive waste in procurement. A revolving door between the Pentagon and massive “defense” contractors. Widespread consolidation, encouraged by deliberate government policy, to the point where competition has virtually disappeared in many vital areas. This is the legacy of several decades of disastrous mismanagement and profiteering at the highest level of the American military.

No more pointless wars I will never, ever vote to send Americans into a pointless war. Everything we went through in Iraq can be laid at the feet of those in Washington, like Senator Collins, who knew better but voted “Yes” on a disastrous, deadly war.

So if the argument is that he is, still, currently a Nazi, just running on progressive ideology to pull one over on all of us dumb rubes, why bother hiding it? Why be a cryptofascist when obvious-as-fuck fascists are running on fascist platforms and getting elected because they’re fascists? He has said literally nothing even in his online posts as a private citizen anywhere near as far-reich or as blatant as the current admin says in plain sight on Twitter.

Sad to think that the economy has gotten so bad that his parents who both worked normal ass professional jobs are considered blue bloods now. Back in my day we called that middle class.

Interesting how many billionaires are pouring cash into spreading any and all kinds of bullshit about this guy. The more they spend the better I feel about him.

Not just aging, I would say intelligence is highly variable just on an individual level due to all sorts of factors. How much rest you get, the quality of said rest, current physical comfort level, distractions, stress, whether you’re hungry or have eaten recently, time of day, whether there’s a time constraint, etc etc etc. I wonder how many “stupid” people are genuinely that way even in the best conditions, or if the majority are just suffering from any of multiple detractors on them. Because of this I try not to judge, because I don’t know their lives.

If it’s a straight edge and the measurements don’t have to be too precise I would just sand the edge flat, personally

I actually think it would be the opposite. I imagine during the American push west it drew the novelty seekers, the people who weren’t afraid of change and dynamic settings. Neurotypical people would probably stay home. Also, a study from 2024 had results that favored ADHD people when they had to perform a foraging simulation. The impulse to move on and explore is well suited to it. My family has started trying to do a little homesteading, and wow the skills that are involved and the amount of problem solving means there is always something new to do. We are constantly challenged to work with our hands to find creative and affordable solutions. Animals and dependents create external accountability. Deadlines aren’t just meaningless bullshit on a calendar, they are real things that become vitally important enough to awaken the “panic monster”. I’m sure there would be struggles for an ADHD person to do everything, but this was also a time where no one would be doing it alone. Farms and homesteads would hardly ever be a “nuclear family” mom/dad/kid unit. You would have had grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, transient labor, etc etc. The homestead would have a dozen or more people on it, so if you had executive issues with cooking but a hyper fixation on gardening, there would be other people to cover for you. If you were having trouble getting started on something, another household member might get everything needed together and then get you to help them do it instead.

I’m not going to try to sell it as a paradise or perfect existence but I do think that societies and communities used to have a lot more flexibility to accomodate neurospicy individuals. This era we find ourselves in is unique because we have never had so many households of so few people. Throughout history we have had tribes and communities and big households, and neurodivergent people were given a place because they were family members and a part of those communities. Now we are all expected to fend for ourselves completely alone, of course we can’t do it all.

Thank you for providing a possible answer for why my Jellyfin server is such a memory hog. It eats up memory and CPU even while idling and grinds all of my other services to a crawl if I let it

You’re not the only one. I’ve been having an issue where Jellyfin just decides to use 90% of my server’s memory and cpu just for giggles and I haven’t had the time to unravel it so it’s just unusable at the moment.

I genuinely liked Pulaski and still do despite the internet consensus, but I think a part of the hate was a reaction to Gates having been sidelined after season one. She was a feminist and did horrible things like ask for equal pay, so the menfolk producers figured they could cut her and get someone more compliant. Source for this: had a chat with her at a convention, same thing happened to Terry Farrel.

I was going to recommend Primal Kitchen! I only will get theirs, it tastes like what (IMO) ketchup is supposed to taste like.

Thankfully ice cream is something that can be easily made at home and the jump in quality makes it well worth it. Frozen drum type ice cream machines end up in thrift shops all the time, but are also under $100 new. I don’t eat any ice cream that isn’t home made now, it’s completely spoiled me. I use light cream, whole milk, sugar, my flavoring of choice, and add a little alcohol (the equivalent of a tsp of wine per serving) to keep it soft. I really can’t recommend it enough!

Are you in the US? There are a couple of native blackberries that don’t grow in brambles, but they are still quite pokey. This one basically grows as a couple of arching canes, usually on a tree line with a few others.

Rubus Ursinus (Pacific blackberry) and Allegheniensis and a few others are native to the US. They’re still prickly but not evil, we have some in the backyard and the turkeys love them.

Is it something you do as a hobby/interest or for a living? Bc that sounds like a lot

Yes to both. I have always been interested in clothes and fashion since childhood (dolls and sewing and crafting etc) and I like getting the most value out of my money, which led me to thrift shops and buying second hand. Thrift shops and the quality of their items are highly variable but for some time I lived in a place that had multiple fantastic shops. I would rotate through them and grab high quality items that were not selling there and sell them online. I moved and don’t pick as much to sell anymore, but I still buy for my family and self.

Thrifting is sort of like gambling, except it costs time instead of money to “play”. You only pay after you “win” by finding the Awesome Thing. Sometimes you will strike out and not find anything, that’s normal. If you only look at one thrift shop once or twice you will likely not find anything, and you usually will find something other than what you were specifically looking for. However when you “win” and find something truly special and exciting, it can keep you going back to the hunt.

Men’s clothes are harder to thrift generally, because as a group, men are more careful consumers and will wear their clothes out instead of donating them. However it’s still perfectly possible to find good things. You already know to look for natural fibers, but did you know you can dye stained shirts in your washing machine with dye from most grocery stores? If you have a an otherwise good quality plain shirt but it has some discoloration, you can spend $5 on a bottle or box of dye, and either throw it in a big cookpot on the stove or run it through the hot wash cycle with anything else you want to be that color. There are also other places to thrift, like online second hand marketplaces (Ebay, Poshmark, Vinted, Thredup etc), Church fundraiser sales, and of course good old yard sales.