My favourite response to that is “why are you so keen to get me to do something I don’t want to do?”

It will pass.

And you are being productive - you are starting the process of getting away from alcohol, which is pretty productive of you.

oh no. I’m so sorry.

@andros_rex@lemmy.world I’m not sure what time zone you’re in but I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you and I hope everything goes well today.

We’re proud of you, if that helps?

I’m so sorry you’ve got bad stuff to deal with.

I think you’ve already realised the main thing about booze, which is that pouring it on bad situations makes the bad situation worse.

Can you pour the rest of the alcohol down the sink?

Can you arrange to see a friend tomorrow, somewhere without alcohol, just to talk over the issue, or if you don’t want to, just talk about anything but that? I always find getting out of my own head is useful for dealing with stuff.

I’m all about the planning 🙂

Think of it this way - at the moment, alcohol is your default, your habit. You’re laying down new habits and that’s hard. You need to make it as easy as possible for yourself to do the new thing, until “not drinking” becomes the default.

So my first Christmas party, my plan was “I can leave after the meal if it’s horrible and I’m tempted to drink. I can stay later if I want to, but just stay until I’ve eaten.” And when I rocked up and the only non-alcoholic options were boring (water) or childish (Coke, Sprite), I was annoyed but I was also fine because I knew what my plan was and I stuck to it.

Do you have a plan for the weekend? What are your drinking triggers, and how will you mitigate them?

So things like making sure you have nice AF drinks in, if you drink at home at the weekend. Alternative places to eat that do good AF alternatives, if you normally go out to drink at the weekends. Check menus ahead of time so you’ve already decided what you’re drinking.

welcome, we’re glad to have you here. 😊

Title edit because I shouldn’t do the Daily Check-in post until after I’ve had my coffee 🤭

Whoops!

How’s your weekend looking? :)

Great - I had a colour, style and wardrobe consultation yesterday because I’ve been feeling stuck and uninspired (we are not going to talk about the number of Breton-striped tops I own), and that was really helpful, so I’m doing some clothes shopping and sewing pattern planning.

Proud of you for coming up with a plan, and excellent support from your friend.

There is a “leaves” community but it’s only got one post on it https://lemmy.world/c/leaves@lemmy.ml

woohoo!

Congratulations!

drinking dreams are the worst. I’ve always put them down to my subconscious working things out while I’m not looking.

About 3 months into “off the booze for a year, yeah, see how it goes?” I woke up absolutely furious with my boyfriend, blamelessly asleep in his own bed on the other side of London, for giving me wine in my dream. That was one of the things that made me think I was in it for the long haul, not just a year.

Excellent choice!

woohoo!

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