People are just going to disagree with you, argue, insult you, and at the end, you’ve wasted your time for absolutely no gain to anyone. There’s no benefit to posting anything on Lemmy, unless you need external validation - either confirming your perspective, or seeking praise from a third party.
Exceptions are when your profile is associated with some larger organization, scheme with an obscure goal, is an attempt to gather information, or the literal goal is to waste time, your own or others.
This means that every post not meeting those exceptions is an altruistic act that you should consider being grateful for. Someone expended time and effort for the purpose of entertaining you, a complete stranger, they’ll likely never know and never meet. They wasted their own time so they could improve yours.
I do like reading other people’s comments. I hope people get something out of reading mine. But my position on posting remains unchanged for a while now:
My rule to live by (and this seems to trigger people online for some reason whenever I say it): never engage with comments online. I’ll post a comment, but >99% of the time there is no reason to reply. I’ve made my point. There’s hardly anything to gain from trying to change anyone else’s mind or elaborating further. Someone has to make it abundantly clear that they are responding in good faith to warrant a response. My life has been much better since I started doing this and I would strongly recommend everyone try it out.
I find it even more absurd that people post about relationships problems (whether with a partner, friend or family member) and expect people to give any reasonable response when strangers have no idea of the context or lived experience and have one heavily skewed side of the story. That really is a place where people are just looking for validation. It has become a joke on Reddit and Lemmy how everything is such a “RED FLAG!!”.
Sage advice, in my humble opinion.
Agreed fully on the topic of relationship advice posting.