• applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    8·
    1 day ago

    I think the only thing really holding me back right now is I want to date lesbians, and not being very femme presenting yet makes me afraid I will have a really hard time, which I really don’t need for my mental health. I’m also kind of low key afraid of encountering a terf or more subtly bigoted lesbians.

  • teslekova@sh.itjust.works
    42·
    2 days ago

    Heh. My partner is transitioning right now, and I’m bisexual, so it’s kinda best of both worlds. Definitely put yourself out there. There are people who will delight you in ways you can’t imagine yet.

    • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      23·
      2 days ago

      I see this is coming from an inclusive place, but not everyone would be cool with being told that. Sex and being trans can be really complicated emotionally, especially during transition. I’m not saying it’s a bad position to take, but will be heavily dependent on the person.

      • teslekova@sh.itjust.works
        2·
        1 day ago

        Well, they had come out as non binary before realising they are more transmasc, so I had practice… basically though I had absolutely no problem with it. They are still who they were, just more comfortable with themselves.

        The only thing I’m having to consciously adjust to is their newfound interest in butt stuff. 😄

  • i078
    34·
    2 days ago

    I’m not part of this community, and the trans aspect isn’t my focus. What matters is the principle: time is limited, so don’t wait for a “better time.” Improve what you can, speak up when needed, and tackle your issues—whether it’s relationships, career, or personal growth.

    Test the waters and plan your steps, but keep moving forward. Don’t fixate on the end goal as your only source of happiness. Enjoy the journey, adapt as things change, and address what feels wrong or missing. Progress is about both the destination and the ride.