I like big hips, and I cannot lie… speaking of which, hips that don’t lie are preferable.

They want me to be this long-haired, big-hipped beautiful woman but honestly, I kinda hate my big hips.

Depends what you’re calling ‘big hips’? Sorry for what’s probably a rude question but, as a dude and as a French speaking person, I’m really not sure if you mean you think you’re somewhat too fat or just that mother nature gave you some hips/curves that you would rather not have (fancying yourself as somehow flattish than you are, excluding any overweigth question). Depending that, you may still be able to change your… curviness, if that’s a word, within reason.

I lost so much weight myself, just by making walking into a daily habit and by eating healthier food, it’s hard to imagine.

Also:

They want me to be this long-haired, big-hipped beautiful woman

They may want whatever, we live in a free world, but you still decide based on what you want for yourself. Don’t let anyone decide who you are or what you should look like.

I lost weight myself not because I wanted to become slim or please anyone else (my spouse did not leave me the day I gained weight, nor did she leave me after I lost most of it). I did it the day I realized it was good for me and for my health. Very, very good indeed.

I suppose the correct answer has something to do with learning to love yourself or some such… But…

Our bodies really can be quite inconvenient and frustrating at times.

💜

Don’t mold yourself by others. If you want to exercise and work those hips down, you do it!

(Personally I’m working on getting my belly back in control though nobody has yet complimented it for being beautiful either way.)

I choose to instead hate clothing manufacturers and media that suggests realistic bodies are the problem

I hate them because I can’t find any trousers that fit properly.