Black people receive a lot of flack for publicly wearing bonnets, so I don’t want to be insensitive. I have severe sensory issues and things like satin, silk, etc are the only safe materials for my head.

Edit: will wear something different. I am just doing my best to not be culturally insensitive. I will look for a different style of hats; this question is about appropriation.

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    It’s more of an European middle ages thing I guess? So no, it wouldn’t be “cultural insensitive”. Or I’m thinking about the wrong headgear.

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    Interestingly one of the few times I ever got pulled over was when I was on my way back from helping someone with yardwork and had my hair bundled up in a scarf so it didn’t get nasty. It was so weird the cop actually apologized for pulling me over then drove off really suddenly. I definitely grew up in one of ‘those’ areas so I think he really did pull me over and was like ‘wait shit you’re white abort ABORT’ which is so funny because like. I just do what works culture means very little to me.

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    IMO, it’s only cultural appropriation if you’re making a shit ton of money off of something you copied from another culture, while the people from that culture that are involved with thing aren’t.

    People who get pissed at White people for having dreads are idiots. Same for a Mexican wearing a kilt. Grow up and let people dress how they want.

    If you like it, wear a bonnet.

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      it’s only cultural appropriation if you’re making a shit ton of money off of something you copied from another culture

      Or something that is ceremonial and is being used out of context is a common complaint. Tho most traditional clothing also has a party associated with it, so really just make a good judgement.

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    White dad with a black daughter here–you should be fine, but if you’re concerned, read up or watch videos to understand bonnets in black culture so that you can speak to it if someone ever brings it up. A simple, “yeah I don’t have textured hair, it’s a sensory thing for me” should clarify any confusion.

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    I get the impression the threadiverse is a very white space and to me, white people’s opinion on what feels appropriative seems unlikely to have as much perspective as you might want if the question matters to you. If there are folks you’re close with who it’d make sense to ask and are black, they might be a better crowd to ask. Or even a different part of the internet.

    I think in general when you’re wondering how people feel about something you need to talk to the affected people. Thats easiest when you have relationships where you know thats welcome, or if you go to a space where it is actively invited.

    Maybe the folks answering are giving good answers rooted in perspective though- as some random white guy I wouldn’t know short of asking someone else. Honestly my read on the demographics of the platform could be off too. Being that it’s a somewhat anonymous feeling version of social media you don’t have a great sense for who’s answering your post and what kind of perspective they’re speaking from 🤷🏻‍♂️

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    I… don’t understand the question as a concept to start with. Can you explain more of what you mean?

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    The racism doesn’t happen on your head.

    The racism happens when you make such decisions in your questions and statements:

    “me … a white person”

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    Oh. This is no stupid questions. FML. I’ll save my jokes.

    No. It’s not offensive.