And when I get the angle, distance and pose correctly, I look…kinda okay? I need some opinions on this

Also, this is a terrible matchup 😭
Jorts and a super long T-Shirt. I’m so dumb…

Please, greater powers, give me hips and a butt 🙏
Just give me a lower body half as good as my mom’s, I’m begging you 😭

  • Kayday@lemmy.worldEnglish
    12·
    5 days ago

    You look great! Actual waist envy over here.
    I’m sure you know that wearing the shorts up to your waist instead of at your hips will generally be more flattering, but this is a good look for you as well. I don’t know how old you are, but assuming you are post-puberty, your pelvis/hip bones won’t widen from hrt - any width you gain will be from fat redistribution.
    Also, long sleeve shirts and shorts are the official uniform of the American Midwest. I see women dressed this way all the time in the transition between warmer and colder months.

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      6·
      5 days ago

      I don’t know how old you are, but assuming you are post-puberty, your pelvis/hip bones won’t widen from hrt

      Damn. That’s depressing. Especially with how narrowly I missed the window. Not really, because I started at the tail end of 19, but still, I do feel kinda bad.

      Thanks for your kind words anyway 💜

        • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          1·
          4 days ago

          I’d love to believe that, I really would…
          But I’ve just heard so many conflicting reports.

          • Some people say hip bones are completely fused by 25, so they can widen until then.
          • Others say that once puberty is done, no widening or really any bone structure change is possible.
          • And some people anecdotally report their actual hip bones widening way past 25, even starting HRT past 30.

          While I’d love to be optimistic…I think that if I expect zero change, I at least won’t be too disappointed.
          Thanks for your kindness, tho ❤️

          • applebusch (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            3·
            4 days ago

            i want it to be true so bad 😭 my boxy torso/hips have been a huge source of dysphoria for me, so if i get any hip widening/tilting i would be ecstatic. i worry so much that i wont cause i didnt start till i was 34.

            • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
              3·
              3 days ago

              Every day and every evening, I pray to the hip god to give me hips…I need those sooo bad 🙏
              Also…girl. Boxy torso my ass 😭
              You look beautiful. Please continue slaying 🖤

          • guenivere@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            2·
            4 days ago

            I am a quadrogenarian who only just began their new chapter as an open transfem person, and all I wish I could tell you in a way that would connect is: Fuck all the fuckers. You’re beautiful and you matter. And both your voice and your perspective are appreciated. I’m sure I’m not just speaking on my own behalf even just within the Lemmy bubble, but I share it so it’s at least voiced.

            • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
              2·
              3 days ago

              Thank you, really ❤️
              I’ve gotten over the fuckers and their stupid opinions, but…my dysphoria comes from within. And I’m working on it, but it still hurts. Being beautiful or even slightly desirable is something I rarely believe I do. But I’m trying 💙

              Thanks for your kindness tho 🩷

      • nikki@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        4·
        4 days ago

        as someone who was underweight for a very long time, all the weight I’ve gained recently has gone where I want it! all I do for exercise is a bike ride a few times a week and my general walking around for work/life in general :3 trust the process!

  • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    3·
    4 days ago

    jorts and super-long tshirt go together well i think. i also like short trousers + long sweater (that goes over the ass)

    (also i’m happy that you found your stuff :))

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      1·
      3 days ago

      long sweater (that goes over the ass)

      This may be stupid, but isn’t the goal to expose more of my ass? I don’t really have…showing off level material, but I’d imagine exposing my ass a bit might help…
      I got SUCH a cute, oversized and long sweater from my mother tho. I can’t wait to wear it again 😄

      Thank youu 💜

      • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        3 days ago

        this is kinda counter-intuitive. one would think that showing off more = better. however in practice that’s not the case. the reason is because women are not just pieces of meat. so playful clothing adds a layer of psychological state to the game. long sweater = you want to be packaged, feel soft fabric on all sides. short shorts = you’re not shy to show off your legs. these can go hand-in-hand.

        • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          1·
          3 days ago

          the reason is because women are not just pieces of meat

          I…ummm. I didn’t mean it that way…at all. If it came across like that…holy shit I need to work on my communication skills. I’m sorry…that didn’t occur to me even in the slightest. I was just half-joking that maybe showing off more of my ass would help my case a bit…I’m really sorry
          I know that some people think like that, and that’s incredibly messed up. I would never even try to imply something like that…it’s just plain wrong.

          so playful clothing adds a layer of psychological state to the game

          That makes sense. I hadn’t considered that…

          I’ll definitely try the sweater with a pair of shorts. Thanks…

          • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            2·
            2 days ago

            I…ummm. I didn’t mean it that way…at all. If it came across like that…holy shit I need to work on my communication skills. I’m sorry…that didn’t occur to me even in the slightest. I was just half-joking that maybe showing off more of my ass would help my case a bit…I’m really sorry I know that some people think like that, and that’s incredibly messed up. I would never even try to imply something like that…it’s just plain wrong.

            you sound like you’re hyperventilating. calm down, i was just being snarky. everything’s fine :)

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      2·
      4 days ago

      Tysm 😭

      definitely jelly of the waist!

      Please…don’t be. It really is nothing special. In day to day life, I am just rectangular, my figure is masculine. Achieving an illusion of a thin waist requires careful posing on my part…
      I fucking wish I could actually look like that (or in my other pictures) 😭
      But they’re just…good pictures 🥲

      I’ve even taken my measurements, because I was so obsessed. Here are the measurements (yes I just wanted to make a Markdown table, don’t judge me, I’m learning 😭):

      Measurement Centimeters Inches
      Waist 72 28.3
      Hips 94 37

      I honestly have no idea what to do with these…it’s just a bunch of numbers. Sorry…
      Thanks tho 🩷