Guild wars 2 and 3 are slowly going to be this for me.
Ah, the third place that is scary and lonely
The third place has been monetized so heavily you cannot go there.
We need a fourth place.
Can we instead have a good place?
Or at least a medium place
The medium place is tailored for what each individual would consider to be perfectly mediocre, as a consequence it’s also terribly lonely.
Like a bus station!
I’d settle for a different place
I’m pretty sure at this point that this is the bad place, so probably not.
OryxAndCake figured it out? OryxAndCake?! This is a real low point. Yeah, this one hurts.
We need a library with loud zones.
That’s just the library on a normal day, at least in my neighborhood. I want a library with actual quiet.
If the entire library is loud, there isn’t a “loud zone”, lol
You have my sympathies tho, you should move to my neighborhood, our library is quiet af. I found a bullet in the parking lot once tho, and that made me really sad.
Wages haven’t kept up so they’ve become unaffordable.
i was in forth place once, there were four of us racing
I was in fourth place once, there were three of us racing.
made a friend along the way? the real treasure
OP was chasing three people.
Fourth hole you say? It’s a myth.
That’s called community and capitalism stole it from us
I don’t think so. You can still buy Community on streaming.
Libraries.
The library!!
Also, the pub. Actually, they should be joined
With shady courtyards!
Really interesting how that touches on online gaming communities as a “new” version of the typical third social space, but why not non-gaming social areas? Some may be more anonymous than others and maybe that invalidates it because you’re hidden behind a false identity, and yet I’m been in plenty of communities on BBSes, IRC, and other platforms where the people didn’t know “me”, but they knew my online identity as well as any real life people know me. Just seemed odd, because as a kid and young adult I didn’t hang out at the mall like the others (which was the third space then) but would be found online with my friends there.
Vr chat and discord also exist
Yeah, in my experience, that’s just discord (my specific brand of neurodivergence finds most discord communities too overwhelming tho, unfortunately)
I’m an atheist but I joined the universalist Unitarian church and it’s been a great 3rd place for me.
Not an atheist but don’t tend to vibe with sectarian religion. How’s the vibe?
It’s open to all and embraces lots of cultural traditions with out singling any one out as right or any diety or dogma as correct. The first Sunday I went the music director was playing a MUSE song on the piano before things got started, for pride we just had an open mic day then a potluck then we went and marched in the Seattle pride parade, we have atheist, agnostics, pagans, Catholics, all flavors of Christian’s, Buddhists, Taoists… that’s all at my church not just in an abstract sense of who attends. Our leader is a doctor of social work, an immigrant, a Catholic and a queer woman. She often references everything from nature to spirit to the mother to god, to simply just knowing we are innately holy even if that’s all there is to it, the pulpit often has diffent little flags on it to fit certain themes but when there is no theme the default flag is a trans flag that says trans rights are human rights. As a person who spent most of my life as a border line militant atheist but softened up a little bit after a NDE it’s a great fit for me personally, if you want to check it out via zoom PM me and I can give you a link, they broadcast it every week. Last week we did blessing of the animals and the little flyer they give out for the schedule had a stained glass imagine of Saint Jimothy, he’s a local celebrity so it was cute not cringe, and I brought my dog to be “blessed” which was just the reverend saying his name laying her hands on his head and thanking him for being such a good friend 🥲
It’s basically “the secular religion.” What if there was a post-Christian church-like place you could go on Sunday and have something analogous to a religious community without being really required to believe any particular thing?
I haven’t looked into it in a long time, but UU was originally more like a social club for deists and the like.
Come on over to my front porch!
Porch. You have a roof and at least one wall, but you’re outside.
The Backrooms. Scary AND lonely.
Not that lonely, it gives you friends that even bring dinner
Its a privilege for sure of those with housing space, but entertaining guests in your home, distributing burden and cost, is one way to spend time with people.
But home is where I hide from people
And I don’t like going to other peoples houses because the entire time my brain is screaming “THIS IS WHERE THEY HIDE FROM PEOPLE LEAVE THEM ALONE”
What are you? A cat?
The solution is just standing in the doorway so you’re half in and half out.
I’m ok with inside thanks.
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