• davel@lemmy.mlEnglish
    19·
    6 hours ago

    Sorry to hear about your wife’s dissatisfaction. Not every fuck is a five star fuck.

  • Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world
    5·
    5 hours ago

    Off topic, but I still find it weird when things get framed this way. Was the partner raped or did they cheat? So strange to read about them being an inactive character as if they don’t have personal agency. That’s not a criticism of this post. It’s funny. It just reminded me of the particular phenomenon.

    • TheFogan@programming.devEnglish
      8·
      5 hours ago

      I do agree with you in the gist of it… something I find flat out stupid is how many people define the “homewrecker” as the outsider that was willing to have sex with a married adult. (hell some of the time they weren’t even aware that the person was married at the time).

      Don’t get me wrong, anyone who knowingly has sex with someone they are aware is in a committed relationship is still IMO 100% garbage of a human. But the actual blame for the marraige falling appart is the one who had trust to betray. I view that as the difference between stealing $20 from a stranger on the street, versus stealing $20 from a close friend or relative that absolutely trusts you.

      • hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        5·
        5 hours ago

        Don’t get me wrong, anyone who knowingly has sex with someone they are aware is in a committed relationship is still IMO 100% garbage of a human

        I don’t get this. Maybe if it’s a partner of a friend or something, but generally it’s between you and the person you’re having sex with, and then whatever is between the other person and their partner, is their problem

        • TheFogan@programming.devEnglish
          3·
          3 hours ago

          I’d put the analogy as… selling someone a knife that you already know they plan to stab someone with. Yes obviously they are going to find a way to stab the person anyway unless you actively take the role of warning the person, but it’s hard to argue that it isn’t being complicit in a crime.

          For me I suppose I fall onto the far other end of it. I’ve had 3 different situations where a friend has informed me they were cheating on their partner. All 3 resulted in me, contacting their partners. For me even having the knowledge when I have had zero participation in the situation… is an overwhelming sense of guilt. While all 3 resulted in a loss of a friendship, and one was ineffective because the cheater succesfully reweaved the lies. My only regret is taking too long on the first one.

        • the_weez@midwest.social
          31·
          4 hours ago

          If I know somebody is willing to cheat on their spouse there’s no way I’m going to trust them with anything important. If their partner can’t trust them to not fuck other people then I’m not likely to trust them with much.

        • gibmiser@lemmy.world
          22·
          4 hours ago

          You participated in the act of adultery you turd. Maybe ita not your marriage, but you participated. You said yeah im OK with this because im getting something out of it.

          You are enabling the bad behavior. You are helping the bad person do the bad thing. You are being bad. Stop giving yourself a free pass just because you personally aren’t having any negative consequences.

            • gibmiser@lemmy.world
              11·
              2 hours ago

              Hahaha I don’t need religion to be a good person. Im not religious. Maybe you need it though since you are clearly struggling with the idea of right and wrong.

              Does helping nazis do nazi things that make you feel good make you a nazi? Pretty sure you have an opinion on that one. Maybe think about it. Just because you are only emotionally hurting a small number of people does not let you off the hook.

              Sorry its not what all you horny people want to hear.