• SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Reading minds isn’t a “signal”

    I’m sorry but if men and women want equality in their relationships then women need to stop this middle-school behavior.

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      2 months ago

      There are reasons subtlety and body language evolved.

      Some men don’t take direct “Not interested. Please leave me alone” well. They’ll call you a [slur, slur] and maybe get violent. But fake laughter and dead-ending the conversation has lead to safer outcomes.

      So, yeah, it sucks people can’t be direct and honest, but it’s not just coming out of malice.

      Also a lot of the time people don’t really know what they want, or want contradictory things.

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        2 months ago

        I understand the excuses people make to not act like mature adults.

        I’m sorry if men were rude to you, them acting like children doesn’t give you a pass.

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          2 months ago

          It’s not acting like children. It’s acting like adults. Most adults use subtlety for a variety of reasons. Personal safety and letting someone down gently are just two that come to mind.

          You can want everyone to have a standard API with nice json output, but that’s just not how humans are. Expecting it is folly.

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            2 months ago

            Giving peolple the wrong “hints” because they are completely subjective is a childish thing to do in place of communication.

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              2 months ago

              My fellow sapient, do you engage with real people in the world? Your position has merit in a “imagine a frictionless, spherical cow for this physics problem” kind of sense, but is absolutely unrelated to the real world of humanity the entire time we’ve existed, and probably going back to earlier primates as well.