• Queen HawlSera@lemm.ee
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    2 days ago

    When I get clocked as autistic I activate a defense mechanism where I play into the stereotype and pretend to be a hyper intelligent child in a 30 year old’s body.

    This surprisingly works because I’m a woman (meaning society is infantalizing me anyway) and most of my hobbies are childish things like Sonic and Yu-Gi-Oh so it does allow me to indulge in them in public without fear.

    So people just tend to think I’m adorable for some reason.

    Sadly I couldn’t even stop doing that if I wanted to. I kinda do because I hate being stereotyped and I know I’m not doing other autistic people any favors… but… I swear it’s not even voluntary it’s like a weird reflex.

    I even do this softer less intimidating voice that creeps my boyfriend out. Honestly I think I have another personality that’s just younger than my main one or something.

  • CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de
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    3 days ago

    I often think of neurodiversity as operating systems. Most people, the neurotypicals, are running on Windows. But us neurospicy people, we run on Linux. There are a lot of distros, different, but still kinda similar in some ways, you’re usually not taught how to operate them, have to find out a lot by yourself though it isn’t necessarily hard to learn if you’really given the opportunity and your environment just lets you be without too much expectations to run Windows software. And mostly, the normies don’t get it and can’t be bothered to learn about it. (Also there’s Mac but that’s those weird people who say they are different but really only do it for the clout. Or they’re just artists.)

    • LovableSidekick@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      Tbh I’m getting a little tired of neurodivergence being worn like a badge of distinction. People who are neurodivergent aren’t necessarily smarter, more creative or in any other way better than people who aren’t. I’m neurodivergent myself, but so are Musk and Trump FFS.

  • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de
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    3 days ago

    Exactly what i’ve been saying for a while now. The analogy goes even further: Windows is often used to carry out day-to-day office work, while Linux is used on servers, research/development machines, and anytime you need something non-standard/flexibility.

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      3 days ago

      I kinda embraced that as a teen and honestly hurt me a lot over the years because I have an irrational, pathological need to be different even when it doesn’t matter and even when it takes way more effort and hurts me.

      Or maybe it was always there idk

  • whaleiam@lemm.ee
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    3 days ago

    Damn I’m not on the spectrum as far as I know, but I identify with this a lot. Expectations are heavy on the social creature.

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      3 days ago

      Many of us spend way too much time conforming to others opinion on public social conduct. Those same judgmental people spend no time or effort on tolerating us. They probably would have enough brain power to keep breathing if they did.