• the_crotch@sh.itjust.works
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      2 days ago

      Meh. I’ll just fall back in my personality. I’m not really into women who care about aesthetics much anyway.

      • 𝕿𝖊𝖗 𝕸𝖆𝖝𝖎𝖒𝖆@programming.dev
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        1 day ago

        Everyone cares about aesthetics. “I don’t care about aesthetics” is itself an aesthetic.

        Your looks are part of your personality, we’re not talking about how pretty you are here ; we’re talking about what you express with you looks.

        And what a white t-shirt and jeans expresses is “I’m boring”, or more charitably “I’m normal”. People looking to date look for someone who stands out to them, without being too weird either.

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          Boring looks mean “I’m normal”, as you said, which is a very comforting thought for many women. Not everyone is into something extravagant. Many people feel like going for the classics is the safer option. Someone can stand out for you without standing out in the crowd.

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        Decent folks usually back seat aesthetics to personality anyway.

        The meme is still funny. I hobby bird watch, and it’s very true in the bird world. The male birds are colored brightly if they have good nutrition, they are healthy, so the females mate with them. The female birds are boring so they blend into the environment, so they hide better from prey as they do the egg hatching thing.

        I went on a first bar date with a fella once, and I couldn’t get it out of my mind he reminded me of a cocky rooster, so boisterous. Too much personality for me, I chose not to go out with him again. A lid for every pot.