That’s valid but also kind of sad. I’ve dated ace before so I get that some people just aren’t wired for certain things. I but feel a little bad for people who can’t even have nonsexual contact free of shame, but maybe there’s a perspective I’m lacking. Just feels like shame should have no place in a relationship even if physical touch isn’t present either.
I like being touched and touching, it’s just horrible to try, or imagine trying, and then being rejected. What if I’m coming on too strong? What if they don’t want to touch right now? What if they don’t want to touch right now, or I’m actually smelly from a mild amount of sweat and they have to endure that because they don’t want to tell me off but I haven’t realized it, and now I’m subjecting them to unpleasantness that they feel obligated to endure?
That’s valid but also kind of sad. I’ve dated ace before so I get that some people just aren’t wired for certain things. I but feel a little bad for people who can’t even have nonsexual contact free of shame, but maybe there’s a perspective I’m lacking. Just feels like shame should have no place in a relationship even if physical touch isn’t present either.
Some people just don’t like being touched. Sometimes it’s trauma, sometimes simple preference. It’s not always about shame
Sometimes it’s autism. Touch is a lot of sensory.
I like being touched and touching, it’s just horrible to try, or imagine trying, and then being rejected. What if I’m coming on too strong? What if they don’t want to touch right now? What if they don’t want to touch right now, or I’m actually smelly from a mild amount of sweat and they have to endure that because they don’t want to tell me off but I haven’t realized it, and now I’m subjecting them to unpleasantness that they feel obligated to endure?