Not in these words, but I’ve been told by my dad bullying is just a friendly interaction and that I’m overly sensetive.
I guess I shouldn’t have gotten mad for being constantly humiliated and assaulted by my classmates and teachers.
I don’t miss school by a bit.

I’m sorry mate. But let me tell you from an old farts point of view:

Fuck them. Fuck the bullies and fuck everyone not believing you. They’re idiots. Cut toxic people out of your life. There’s nothing wrong with you, you’re just maybe differently “wired” and it scares them. Shows their weakness, not yours though.

And also: it’s those people like you, “underdogs” or the bullied, that turn out to be the most interesting people in the end. The bullies most likely end up forgotten and irrelevant.

Helps not while you’re still being bullied, I know. But still.

I didn’t feel like I was being bullied. My parents didn’t treat me much better than the other kids or teachers. I just didn’t want to be around others at all regardless of the circumstance. Baseball game? Birthday party? Park? Nope, I want to stay home in my room. Recess at school? Nope, want to hide in the bathroom. I didn’t learn that people are supposed to be nice to you and have fun with you until adulthood.

This smacks of the same nonsense as when they used to tell us “You’re just being too sensitive”. It’s bullshit. You have a healthy understanding of right and wrong and they are responsible for their actions and how those actions make you feel.

Spreading rumors, calling people names etc isn’t just rude, it is bullying especially if they encourage others to bully you as well.

Basically. Everyone else can laugh at me and talk their shit, but when I stand up for myself, I’m the problem. Those days are over. I say what I want to say.

Nasty little children mocking people different than them. Glad I’m out of school and when people are weird they only talk behind my back!

…well it’s not better but it’s different I guess.

I’m sorry for your hard time. Did you explicitly ask them what they meant by “you’re not being bullied”? I see room for misinterpretation, like “yeah that was rude, but cut them some slack”.

I’ve personally had many clashes with a friend feeling offended due to misinterpretations of what I have said, which make me tend to look at it from the other side. But I do not want to discount your feelings, you are valid ❤️

I honestly think autistic people are either A) more likely to notice all facets of and attempts at bullying, or B) note paying any sttention to the bullies at all. Never is it a case of perceiving it worse than it actuslly is. Also, particularly cruel for a NT to tell an autistic person that, because they have no idea how badly bullied ND people are.

While I’m sure there was significant bullying, it is also the case that a lot of the time it is easy to read bullying into just regular ribbing and obtuse communication that people do to find out if they will get along with someone else. Like a lot of humor is based on misleading for the punchline to land and if someone takes that misdirection as being intentionally deceptive then it can come across as meanspirited when it was intended to be silly.

What tends to happen to autistic people I know is they take a joke literally and get mad, then the bullying starts because they want the same reaction as kids, and also a lot of adults, like to push buttons to get reactions. That is bullying even if the first interaction wasn’t.

Your parents probably assume all the interactions are the first misreading while ignoring that taking jokes personally almost always leads to bullying afterwards.