Had a friend that transitioned after me, and she always kinda had femmy/andro proportions. She ended up finding out she was intersex at like age 29. It has been a few years since then, so I forget what she was getting tested but accidentally resulted with a doctor finding surprise ovaries.

Just goes to show you that you really should just be who you feel you are and stop doubting yourself and listening to the idiots around us screaming about how we can’t possibly exist “but please let me hit”.

I don’t consider these nudes

You could have made money if you did. Like seriously. But that’s up to you.

Girl I would kill people for your body, it’s very feminine.

I. Have kind of the same thing going on. But my shoulders aren’t that broad. I’m barrel chested so if you see me from the back or front you get the illusion of a relatively feminine silhouette. An illusion which is quickly shattered if you see me from the side.

Girl your body is literally like the ideal of femininity in my head wth are you talking about

Hey girl, just wanted to chime in with a thought that you can feel free to take or leave. Have you considered that your inability to see your features as feminine is caused by internalized transphobia? I only say this because it was a major major hurdle for me early in my transition and I still find it pops up every now and then. I don’t mean that you’re being transphobic in the least. But you mentioned in your other post about you mom making comments about people getting surgeries looking weird. That type of comment is transphobic and I’m sorry that you’ve been subjected to that. I suspect that comments such as that, and the general way that trans fems are mocked or made caricatures of, are heavily influencing your perception of yourself. This in turn making your goals seem unattainable. I struggled for years with that and delayed transitioning because I never thought that I could live up to this idealized image of myself. And honestly, I won’t. But us trans women take the already incredibly high and arbitrary standards of beauty that cis women are expected to abide by, and super charge it. So it’s okay that I am not going to hit my ideal goal, because it is completely unrealistic even for cis women. I’m not going to change the size of my shoulders, but I can adorn them with beautiful flowery tattoos that help draw the eye away from the shape. I have been pleased with the progress I’ve made and I’m excited to see where I’ll end up with time and persistence.

Now just a couple tips I have which are just based on the photos you’ve shared, hopefully some other folks could chime in as well. I think you have absolutely gorgeous hair so I would suggest, if you’re able to get your hair styled, to add some layers and some face framing. I get majorly dysphoric about my face when I tuck my hair behind my ears as it feel like it puts my jawline and chin forward and they are a focal point. Having some face framing helps soften and round out your face.

I also love your style, it is very very similar to mine. I adored the outfit you got from vinted the other day with the gray top. Honestly no notes.

Lastly, I think attitude, confidence, and posture signal femininity way more than the specific dimensions of your shoulders or hips. No one is out here with a set of calipers taking your body measurements and judging your gender based on that. Human bodies come in a wide variety of shapes. But if you’re walking around in a dress with a cute pair of flats, a purse, a few accessories, and a bad bitch attitude, it reads feminine more than your shoulders would read masculine. Or cut the neckline out of an old sweater, drop it over one shoulder with a bra strap showing, I’d bet you’d start to like the shape of your shoulders then. At least, it works for me.

Lastly lastly, I started girlmoding far away from where I lived. My wife and I would take a weekend trip where I would only pack my girl clothes, and so I had to live in them. After being out in public wearing a cute outfit around people I’d never see again, I gained the confidence to bring that to where I live. And its funny because looking back, the outfits that I wore and thought were so taboo are so tame compared to what I wear now. And now I purposefully wear outfits that are so in-your-face at family gatherings, just to smear it in the faces of a couple family members that refuse to acknowledge my transness. I’m a spiteful bitch.

I hope this helps, or at least some of it. Or maybe none of it I dunno. But regardless, I hope you acknowledge how incredible you are for even taking this journey. It is not an easy road to travel at all. There is pain, embarrassment, vulnerability, and danger at every turn. But it is still worth it. You gave yourself a chance to find your happiness and comfortability in your own skin and that is an amazing gift, because you deserve to be happy.

Your hips are the bumps above your butt. Your shoulders seem a bit wider than your hips which is totally normal. You do have a very thin waist and a seemingly long torso that definitely makes it seem that way though. Also your shoulders aren’t that broad. You’re actually built a lot like I am, but your butt is definitely a bit bigger.

The pictures you posed are entirely cis passing. One of the “ideal” feminine body shapes is the hourglass figure. Wide shoulders, wide hips, narrow waist. You have that exactly. I am envious of your figure. You look great.

Be aware that you will always be the worst judge of yourself. No one can see themselves objectively. Everyone has something they dislike about their appearance. It doesn’t matter who they are or how they look, no one can ever be truly satisfied with themselves. Everyone is insecure. You are no exception.

I thought my arms were too thick and muscular, but then I compared with cis women and all of their arms are basically the same. Objectively my arms shouldn’t make me feel insecure, they’re normal and fine. Still makes me feel bad nonetheless. Insecurity is not reality.

You look great. Your figure is the feminine ideal. Learn to be kinder to yourself.

Look normal to me, maybe a little underweight, but otherwise you look good.

I have a wide chest and shoulders with jutting rib cage and straight waist to hips ratio. I’m much more top heavy and “strange”. And with only having ever developed small breasts to help smooth things out, and no real hip development, only belly fat, I think your body looks really good compared to mine. But it’s all relative. No one’s body is “perfect” because there’s no such thing. The popular body shape changes every decade or so. Just enjoy your body. Use clothes to accentuate the things you like to show off. That’s what I try to do. As women we have a lot more ability to experiment with that kind of stuff.

As for the face, makeup helps, but I am planning to get brow and nose reductions at some point in the next couple of years, just long wait lists I’ve been on for ages. But it’s half for me and half for safety in places where not passing can be dangerous if not deadly. But lots of cis-women have to deal with the same stuff and get threatened or attacked almost as often as trans women just for not looking “feminine” enough. So there’s not really a lot to be done to avoid those people who will use any excuse to harass and beat a woman. That’s just life as a woman, unfortunately. So, I’m just doing the minimum to shift the odds in my favor.

But body shape is easier since there are lots of types of clothes to accentuate or minimize features. For example, I use petticoats under skirts to give false volume and use ruched tops to hide the bottom of the ribcage.