• kinther@lemmy.world
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    You don’t want a kid? Man up and get a vasectomy.

    Took ~2 days of discomfort afterward and now I’m shooting vegan cream pies all day long.

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    Penis owners can get the ✂️✂️ with nearly no pushback. It’s a few days of recovery and doesn’t impact anything. Less anxiety, more libido. If your family plans don’t include more children than you have at this very moment then just do it.

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    If hormonal birth control existed for AMAB people I am sure some of us would use it. I would even be willing to try it if I actually had sex regularly. On the other hand female condoms and diaphragms exist yet I rarely hear about them being used.

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    The amount of guys I’ve met in my whole life who outright refused to wear a condom was… One. Singular.

    Called him an idiot. Then he ended up catching an STD. His dick burned for two weeks and I couldn’t stop smiling.

    Anyway, this seems to be another one of those comics that tries present abnormal behaviour as a common thing.

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      Depends on where you live/your cultural context. The number of times I’ve heard from women in recent years that men refuse to wear condoms has been truly surprising.

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        Surprises me cause I bet decent men won’t have problems with a condom while most substandard men would. No one talks about decent men as much as ones that are bad. Also, if you hear many speak about these men, maybe their preference in men is flawed?

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      Yep. Plenty of women out there that insist on having sex without condom as well.

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    If I thought that I was ever going to have sex with someone, I would get myself fixed. Fortunately, I won’t ever have to spend money on that.

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    If your oral contraceptives cause you any significant side effects, it makes sense to consult a gynecologist to change the prescription. There are many options out there, and correctly chosen ones should not typically cause them.

    In terms of pregnancies, oral contraceptives can be both more or less efficient that condoms depending on the mode of usage for each (and also discipline, don’t skip either). Besides, for many couples accidental pregnancy is a bit of a change of plans, but not something that will warrant abortion or make children unwanted. Again, case-dependent.

    It’s okay to choose condoms as well, as long as partners are happy about it. If that gives you a peace of mind, you can even combine both measures at the same time! It’s only important to remember that there are two (or more) partners involved, and all being happy about the choices made is crucial for great intimacy. Do not ever force someone to take pills if they don’t want to, and discuss your options if someone has issues with condoms. Maybe the issues are with latex condoms specifically, with polyurethane options providing less allergenicity and better sensitivity. Maybe a diaphragm can be your option. Or maybe something else. You can always discuss, you’re not on a gender war or something, you’re partners.

    Personally, I can’t wait for male contraceptive pills to hit the market. Not only it will provide a solution to this specific problem, shifting responsibility for proper selection of contraception and any issues coming with it onto the people who need it the most, it will also provide men with more agency about their reproduction. Finally, you can combine male and female contraceptives to get unparalleled non-barrier protection with good insurance in case one partner misses the pill. Win all-round.

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      On a personal note, sexual discomfort is obviously an important factor to account for when talking about intimacy and love, so it shouldn’t be seen as stupid and unimportant, as portrayed here.

      That should not overpower any health concerns, not least because they are too sources of discomfort, but it should be taken into account.

      Talk it through with your partner - you’re in it together, and there’s almost certainly an option for both of you. Feel free to explore something other than pills and condoms as well if you need it - the world of contraception methods is huge.

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        I’m so very tired of these pointless gender wars, honestly.

        There are better and more productive ways to voice general concerns - there truly exists a pressure on some women to use hormonal contraception, and this is bad - it’s not okay to pressure your partner in matters of health and intimacy. But what helps is getting to the root of the problem.

        The root is sexual discomfort on one side and anxiety on the other standing in the way of intimacy. So, maybe there are other unexplored options to resolve this conflict in a way that is comfortable to all sides? The world of contraception is very rich, and tries to cater to everyone’s use cases.

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    Am I the only person who is more deathly afraid of a life long STD that could fucking kill me than an unplanned pregnancy?

    I dont care which one of us got the snip, unless I’m sure I’m the only dude you’re banging I’m bagging the fuck up until I see some test results which I’ll be happy to get and provide in kind.

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      I really can’t think of an STI that would kill you these days. Am I missing one?

      Yay condoms!

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        In a first world country with access to excellent medical care, no underlying conditions in an otherwise healthy person you’re probably going to be fine.

        Thats not to say it might not be a significant contributor to what does get you.

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          What might be a significant contributor to what gets you? Like what STI(s) are you thinking about?

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            I mean anything from HPV to HIV can still kill you directly even with access to the best health care on the planet.

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      Honestly why I downvoted OP. They shouldn’t be at the point of having this pissing-match without having used condoms together already, and cumming-inside the vagina isn’t exactly required for intimacy even then.

      OPs characters lack imagination, and are catering to an audience that shouldn’t be encouraged into maintaining such a narrow way of thought.

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      I’d assume because many people in these discussions are married… in which case yeah getting an STD would be the booger on top of the shit sundae. But yeah the test results only have to be checked overall at the start of the long term relationship… at least assuming you can trust your partner… while pregnancy is something you’ve got to be alert to in the entirety of a relationship.

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        If your married and kids are a forever no then dude should get the snip. Simple. I’m getting one soonish and if I ever find myself single again I’ll still be wearing rubbers unless Ive had the chat.

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    If your birth control really does even some of those things then you should stop using it and seek one of the many alternatives available to you

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    Guys saying condoms are uncomfortable don’t know how to properly put them on, and/or use the incorrect size for their dick.

    I’ve tried several brands and sizes and the right condom makes a big difference.

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      It’s not always simple, if Durex XXL and Magnum XL sit tight, check out the Condomeria in Amsterdam, they have a “numbers” line, like 64 for example and they ship worldwide!

      Life saver.

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      False. The US regulations (which only recently were loosened in the last couple of years) made sizing half irrelevant. Even if the main portion was sized correctly, due to the regulatory agency not wanting to buy different sized testing machines/attachments, the ring at the base was the same size for every condom.

      This cuts off circulation to like half of men. Like, to numbing levels.

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        You could try to import condoms from countries with health and safety regulations that make sense then.

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      This was me for a good three years. Standard condoms were always uncomfortable, to the point of pain, but not once did I consider going larger, thanks to my first girlfriend (our breakup was… less than ideal thanks to her cheating, and she then went on to tell me, and most of our friends, that my size was entirely inadequate, borderline micropenis, which I took to heart for quite a while).

      It took the aforementioned three years and quite a few one-night stands telling me I’m big to even start thinking “hey maybe I need larger condoms”.

      Guys, don’t be like me, if it’s uncomfortable, go check out the many brands that do specifically sized nominal widths for condoms. Each will have a guide on successfully measuring yourself, or offer a sample kit which you can try for the right fit. Don’t ruin your sex life with shitty condom choices.