I must be weird, or maybe it’s because I used to date someone like Grey, but the impression I got about green is not that they said that because they didn’t want to go out anyway, it was that they were glad grey revealed themselves to be uninterested in them even if it was kind of in a sleazeball way, acting like it was just fine to cancel last minute to go be with someone else.
More like green was happy grey pretty much just sent up a red flag and confirmed that they dodged a bullet.
Gray does not understand the relief of cancelled plans.
It is literally like being told you can leave work early and still get paid.
“Cancelling plans is like heroin.” -John Mulaney
Assuming this is not made up obviously grey is in the wrong
Mmm the ragebait tastes so good though I feel righteous and angered
Although rude, I appreciate when people tell me outright I’m not a priority for them. So I can adjust my own.
See this is the variety of shitpost where it’s just a shit post.
Who’s in the wrong here?
Everyone in this thread who is too stupid to realize this is fake rage bait.
As is your comment. Rage bait within rage bait. Meta rage bait. Ragebaitception. Ragebaiturducken. I see you.
Have you ever considered that other people are smart enough to realize it’s probably a hypothetical scenario?
Grey didn’t value Green’s time, even stated someone better came along. Green responded with shade in response for this lack of respect, Grey had a crash out because her lesser choice had teeth.
Interesting you feel that was the her. There at no genders stated.
This is an /r/SipsTea male rage bait post, of course the chuds think it’s about them.
I mean, for most of the post they tried not to and a single “her” fell out. Something to consider.
I feel it is an interesting question though. I too assigned genders while reading this the first time so is it naturally ingrained in me? Or is it because of the first person POV of text message exchanges like this?
Are women reading this and assuming the other way around? Would a different format (eg changing the bubbles to other side, or paragraph format like in a novel) change who we think is which gender?
I try to be impartial, but each misstep online gets hammered on hard because apparently you need to be perfect for the imperfect themselves. Changing now would just be admitting to something i"m not so you cannot win. Shrugs I do my best and try to not let small mistakes turn into mountains.
As well I see other people posting the grey is female initially so that might have influenced me and I didn’t see anyone else calling them out.
I don’t get why people are confused about this.
Grey was horrible human being first. Green’s reply was a response that horribleness. It’s not like green was genuinely waiting to spring that.
…probably.
I mean its 95% fake but it doesnt really make a difference for discussing it as if it was real.
I think it deoends on the relationship between the two and the kind of meeting they had planned. If its a date and grey bailed for an other date, thats really shitty. If it was a casual meetup between friends and grey bailed for a dating opportunity, its not that shitty and green was a bit rude with the follow-up, but again depends on their relationship and how they usually communicate. In any case, the last few messages are completrly overboard.
Maybe they were pals and Green was saying “thank God” in a good-natured “yay, you finally got a date, happy for you bruh” manner but the response went right over Grey’s head and led Grey to make a total ass of themself.
Though if that were the case, I’d figure they’d clear that up rather than no reply and posting the screenshot.
Oh I didnt even think of that.
Eh, even taking the must charitable view for the canceller, you could also bee charitable to the other one and say that everyone feels relief at cancelled social plans
Hm, not sure I understand what you mean? I dont think its common to feel relieved about cancelled plans. If you dont want to meet, why make plans in the first place?
Its very common for people with ADHD, autism, depression or some other mental problems that fuck with your executive function and mental capacity. And considering how technical and niche Lemmy is, I’d wager that about 50% of the userbase fall under any of those categories.
Oh that may be, doesnt mean its common overall. But I still dont understand the comment I answered to, can someone translate?
Found the neurotypical
Get em!
Didn’t mean to universalize but this is a common reaction. Part of my more charitable read
I hate people now. Nobody wants to keep their commitments. You can invite people to an event and they will all say yes, until a more enticing thing comes along and the flake on you last minute. If you say yes, be there, tell the other person “sorry I already made plans that day” like an adult
For me the issue is that everyone is always busy.
Me: hey, how about we meet next Friday
Person1: I can only do Sunday from 17 to 19
Person2: I can only do Saturday
Person3: I can do Sunday but from 19 to 21
Person4: I can only do the Friday after that
Or even better, they take 5 days to reply and in the end say something came up.
But once I manage to find the one date that fits most people and plan something people do show up.
Yeah I mean that makes sense, your friends respect prior commitments.
Most of the time it’s not like they are meeting other people. The commitments are like family visits every other week, traveling, studying, fixing something at home and so on. Occasionally it’s some birthday party or something. It’s mostly that everyone is busy all the time. Which I do understand but it takes a lot of of effort to organize something.
Edit: right, Doodle
And wouldn’t this also work as a local-wifi-only mobile app?
If you’re German (or not), use https://nuudel.digitalcourage.de/ instead.
You mean doodle? It still exists but since polls are literally built into every messaging app now, its obsolete. It could be relevant if you have a one-time meeting with people who dont know each other and dont have a common messaging app.
but since polls are literally built into every messaging app now
Matrix too? But yes, that one.
Don’t remember the name but I used it couple of times in corpo settings. I think it weird that we have to organize meetings with couple of friends the same way we organized team buildings. I mean, weekends are for resting. Why everyone has everything booked months in advance? I spend every weekend actively but I don’t have a lot of plans that I can’t drop to meet someone.
The secret of keeping self-organization flexible. Most people are less sensible to stress than us.
I for one will not invite you for anything if I don’t want to do it with you. I also will not accept an invitation to do anything that I don’t want to do with you. I greatly enjoy my own company and have a lot of things I love to do by myself. More people would be happier if they would learn to like themselves and found some hobbies.
Greens response could’ve meant (s)he had a busy day at work and was glad to put their feet up. The bluntness met have been unintended.
Grey then exploded and made it a problem, showing that green actually dodged a bullet.
(s)he
✨they✨
(s(t))he(y)
(t)hey
(t)heyyy
(w)hat’s the name of that doc?
he … OR SHE
i think i was referencing a movie or tv show scene when a guy was trying to be progressive and when they were talking about an unknown person, he kept going “he … OR SHE did this or that”
I thought you were referencing this bit by comedian James Acaster: https://youtu.be/Zt5qJC1xQ8A
Counterpoint: Grey’s responses take a solid 30 mins. Green does not bother to clarify what they meant that entire time.
Did green go overboard? Yes. Could grey have communicated at all? Also Yes.
Youre blaming them for not responding for 30min? Im happy when people reply the same day, same goes for me. And Im glad people arent so obsessed with their phones that theyre constantly available.
My mom once blew up at me because I didn’t respond to her text for 23.5 hours.
“Sorry to bother you. I thought you might give a fuck but I see I was mistaken. I won’t bother you again.”
She didn’t call, she didn’t email, she just sent a text and then exploded when I didn’t respond (because I didn’t see it). Anyways, she’s blocked now–I don’t want to make a liar out of my mother, so I won’t let her bother me.
Maybe they died?
Of cringe, checks out
or were commuting home, having texted as soon as they got off work
I can’t find it, but there’s a webcomic where stick figure guy sends a text, and then immediately throws his phone off a cliff.
teal really proved living well is the best revenge.
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Nah, that’s just your biases in this scenario. That’s not in the text
I ain’t sayin she’s a golddigger
Most likely, statistically, they’re both shitty people.
what did green do wrong?
British
how did you figure that out? genuine
Massive sin right there.
He knows exactly what he did.
Born male.
That’s my take.
