As someone who’s trying go find my place online… Having tried Mastodon, Lemmy, mBin, nostr, bsky, wafrn, etc. Lemmy is by far the most hostile and it’s not even close. Yes there may be more trolls on nostr. But it’s obvious trolling. Not serious hostility.

Honestly, Lemmy feels like an echo chamber. I only rarely see people disagreeing with the OP or being willing to accept different opinions without judging.

On other networks, I don’t sense as much anger or judging based on single statements. I once made an unfortunate and unclear statement on Bluesky and while the immediate reaction from some of the other people in there was definitely negative, it was more of a conversation and it actually ended up feeling like we all ended up moving on. Lemmy feels more like a place where you say something that’s borderline centrist and you’ll be slaughtered in bright daylight and hung out to dry.

But I may just have been browsing the wrong communities I guess.

I’m not saying I’m not an asshat at times. I am human, after all. It’s just that on other networks, I feel there’s more opportunity to have an actual debate instead of being lynched by a thousand anonymous community-beloved personalities.

Absolutely. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve been burned at the stake for this three times over already.

It is still way better than Reddit. There will always be cunts out there.

Classic internet warriors, but if you don’t care about how much upvotes and downvotes you have, you are golden. Banned from a community? Probably not a place I would want to hang out then anyway, even if it is my topic, the community is simply toxic and it’s better not to be there. Just be yourself.

Its simply the old internet: A highly autistic place filled with highly intelligent (or at least, that is what they think of themselves) people with tons of StarTrek, inside jokes and oh so much petty grudges.

As someone who was around at the time of the Usenet and the end if the BBS era I love it, but it is a bit of an acquired taste…

For me it’s the same as reddit. Still there aren’t specific communities I was in or at least they’re not big so I can’t really select what I see. But there’re still lots of memes and stuff idk.

Honestly, to me it feels more insular than Reddit. It feels like there’s no room for nuance in opinion. So for example, if I argue against something that isn’t a hard left economic idea I’ll get down voted pretty heavily even though it’s a pretty tame comment. It does feel like if you go against the grain here, it’s actually worse than that other site.

On Reddit if I posted something against the grain there would usually be one or two people who would chime in and say “yeah. I agree with this guy.” … But on Lemmy there’s no room for that.

I like it. I’ve blocked a couple of folk, and I filter by keywords so I don’t accidentally wander into a community where they hate me because I’m not fully aligned with people who identify as a LINUX distro or whatever. It’s nice.

Hostile, no not really. Less tolerance for bullshit isn’t necessarily hostile.

Insular? Yeah. It’s a small community.

Treating every comment you disagree with as through it were a dissertation is called Isolated Demand For Rigor and it’s a bad faith tactic used to burden the opponent with a workload no sane person would ever take on for an internet comment and win by default. You should probably block anybody you see who does that.

I’ve had a few self important people try to berate me, but far more people just being genuine and vibing. I think it’s a touch better than Reddit so far.

I wish there was more sarcasm, too much of the serious posting isn’t actually a joke!

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Nah, I’m one of the baddies. I want conversation, not just memes and canned comments.

Every single one of my comments is deadly serious and important.

Except the ones about making tents for the homeless out of landlord skins, those are just jokes.