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      I’m not disagreeing with the point of your statement, but I do want to clarify that vaginas absolutely stretch, just not permanently. You’ll have a very different experience if you work up to fisting over a couple of hours vs. launching right into it, because vaginas loosen with arousal.

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        The important thing is that they are elastic - they don’t stay stretched. They’re not like sweaters that stay stretched out forever after someone large wears them, more like rubber bands that stretch temporarily before returning to their typical size. I think that’s why OP used the term “stretch out,” as too many people seem to think once a vagina stretches, it’s a permanent change. It’s such a weird misconception.

        Giving birth stretches a vagina more than any penis (or fist) ever could. Though birth can make some changes that last, it’s more like “Now I need a larger size menstrual cup” than “Now penises just slide back out,” as the popular belief would have people believe.

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      I don’t think people caring about body count has anything to do with physical things other than drastically increased odds of STIs and certain cancers.

      I think mature adults realize that sex is never just sex, it forms attachments whether you want it or not. Screwing around forming and cutting off attachments constantly kind of fucks with your capacity to emotionally invest in an actual relationship.

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        i think the way you’re describing the process as “screwing around, forming and cutting off attachments” really shows that you think of it in a very black and white sort of way. one can have casual / fwb sex with their friends, and still have a friend relationship with that person. one can even have one-off sex with an acquaintance or stranger, and even if you never meet again, it doesn’t really make it a “cut off” relationship; if you met again, it would be pleasant, circumstances just may not arrange it

        just because it’s a more emotionally involved process for you or some people you’ve encountered, doesn’t make it a universal truth

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        Not everyone does form those attatchemnts. There are plenty of poeole out there who can just have sex and have a good time and move on.

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          Which is equally as worrying, to people who disapprove of high “body count” on assumption that emotional attachments were made

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      If they don’t stretch out, then why do some doctors offer complimentary tightening surgery on postpartum mothers?

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        Ouch. That is so fucked up. I am older and have been structurally tight (skin too tight at opening) sex hurts when it goes on too long. The “husband stitch” is abusive. And doctors do it because they do episiotomy, which is also awful because that cut doesn’t heal as well as a repaired natural tear and you might not tear at all.

        Complimentary tightening surgery my ass. That doesn’t help mothers at all.

        Rehab with kegels does help and obviously if you tear, a repair. The midwife recommended working up to fisting before having a baby and man I wish I had taken that advice.

        But being tight right at the opening of the vagina just hurts, there is no advantage to it.

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        They don’t stretch out from having a dick put in them. But giving birth is literally a physically traumatic event. Ligiments get slack so bones can shift around, and it is not uncommon for the flesh around the vagina to experience significant tearing. The whole thing is quite horrifying. Post pregnancy medical procedures may be necessary not just to have a tight pussy, but to be able to not constantly be peeing yourself.

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          litigation

          🤣

          What’s sexist about perpetuating the idea that vaginas do or don’t stretch out? Or what’s sexist about doctors offering to tighten up stretched vaginas? Please explain.

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            It’s called “the husband stitch” becase because it was done for the husbands pleasure, not for the wife’s medical needs, often without the wife’s consent. It also might cause sex to be more painful for the woman, even as it was more pleasurable for the man; which is too bad for the woman, because her husband had a legal right to rape her in the United States until the 1970s.

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            The only thing dumber than your comments is the Piefed decision to replace the downvote button with an emoji button that doesn’t load until just before I try to click the close button.

            Sexist men tell women they have loose vaginas to try and shame them for their sex organs. Arguing it’s true is also sexist.

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        I don’t know, but I read that vinegar not only clears any bad smells but also tightens it up.

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            I don’t think you know what you’re talking about or your fellow downvoters. I read that in a reputable publication over well about three decades back and I take their word over some naysayer online with no backup information or sources.

            Not only that but I’ve had women tell me it’s true that vinegar cleans smells and tightens the area. You are not a reputable source.

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              Youre not right about this. Im sorry. Some women do douche, but most doctors will advise against using anything like this. Mild soap externally is all that is recomended by most Obgyns.

              This info you have is old wives tales, not modern science.

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      For me it sure does. Fuck ass people insisting that it’s not okay to disqualify people from your dating pool is stupid

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        Everybody’s always saying you can deny a relationship with anyone for any reason until it’s a reason they personally don’t agree with.

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          I mean, any reason for not wanting a relationship is a good reason because a relationship where one person doesn’t even really want it is going to be a shit relationship.

          That said, I might still judge you if your reasons are shitty.

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    you’re an incentive if you care about bodycount

    Maybe, but I do care about orders of magnitude in bodycount. Being in the low single digits myself I definitely prefer partners that do not have a bodycount three orders of magnitude higher.

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      I definitely prefer partners that do not have a bodycount three orders of magnitude higher.

      And didn’t attain it in “one sitting,” i.e one session just to have sex with 1000 people. I don’t think i believe she even did that.

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      According to Wikipedia it’s true, and as a world record attempt a notary must have been present to count the men. There’s another job I don’t envy.

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        I don’t get the point of notaries. Anyone could be a notary – you just have to pinky promise that you saw something happen under oath

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          Anyone could be a notary – you just have to pinky promise that you saw something happen under oath

          The notary has to be approved by the State. Basically, if a notary attests to some fact, it is as if the entire government bore witness to it.

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          Yeah I mean you pay money and take a little course to become a notary and you have to reup every year (or three years? I can’t remember). The point is you take on legal liability. A notary cannot claim, “i didn’t realize, I didn’t know, I didn’t double check.” Most of the money you pay is in liability insurance in case you screw up. Because if a notary stamps their name to something false, they bear the legal liability which is enough for a notary to not take the risk of flippantly stamping things that are untrue.

          You can also legally marry people.

          There are also legal limits to how much you can charge (like 10 bucks and document or something. It’s not much). Since each stamp doesn’t earn much, but the liability could cost you a lot, it keeps notaries pretty honest. It’s a decent system.

          Mostly only nerds are notaries anyway, so the promising and putting your name to something does some of the heavy lifting by itself

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          You think that someone would break the sacred oath they took to become a notary? What is this world coming to…

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    i’m more concerned about how many guys were lining up

    Maybe after the first 10 it should direct the queue into a room with a therapist to work out whatever problems they’ve got

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    She must be like the biggest porn addict of her sex, to even want to do that. After a while she’s not going to be taking any pleasure from the experience.

    In a way it’s disrespectful to people who’ve undergone similar sexual assault - does she not realise many women are literally scared of having sex with men or even being around men they don’t trust? It’s weird.

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      How is it disrespectful to women who have experienced “similar” sexual assault (bearing in mind, this wasn’t sexual assault, she literally asked for it and planned it all out)? By that logic, it would be disrespectful to women who have experienced sexual assault for women to have sex at all.

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        You may not realise this, but a historical problematic influencer called Adolf Hitler was actually an oxygen addict, and so by referencing a breathable atmosphere youre being incredibly antisemitic.

        Hope this helps!