maybe it happened
Ffs, are we really like this?
Oh no, someone used a big babble machine for brainstorming ideas! How despicable! /i
met in art class is crazy btw.
Relax everyone, this didn’t actually happen
I’m always suspicious of tweets where the author defeats a strawman but this followup post has me pretty convinced of its inauthenticity
No, I have literally never done that. I have never once in my life confused the two lol
I have. Sometimes the brain isn’t paying attention.
I have sent a whatsapp message to someone when I intended to send a teams message to someone else, but this one seems unlikely
I’ve send screenshots of a conversation to the person who sent the message. It happens
No, it didn’t.
telling a date that u use a chatbot to decide is lame
Using the chat bot to make your plans in the first place is even more lame.
I wouldn’t say “more”, but it’s still lame. Announcing that you used an LLM shows you’re ai-pilled enough to think that’s a brag
My husband started using AI to come up with sights we might want to see on vacation and routes we might want to take through them. It’s fine. I think it could atrophy his brain, but I’m not going to divorce him over it.
Ew.
Yes because everybody knows everywhere about their local area, and they have lots of free time and free money
Imagine being this braindead
“Yes because everybody knows how to think and learn things, yeah okay suuuure”
It’s not even hard to plan a date. It’s pride month and the world cup and nice outside, the possibilities abound
So, use a computer for ideas but be dishonest?
Just talking with someone the other day and in the conversation they said “I asked ChatGPT…” about something being discussed. I immediately ceased to give weight to their input. Either they thought they were flexing by namedropping AI or too lazy to do their own thinking. Either way, they instantly lost me.
I tried AI again the other day, just for a yearly check in. Gemini’s Pro model was more apologetic than ever when it changed the basis of its narrative SIX TIMES in seven prompts.
I was simply asking it to describe the counterweight mechanism in a piece of common machinery. It changed from industrial gas struts, to no support and being too heavy to handle, to two large springs (correct), back to no support but now because it’s feather light, and so on. I simply kept asking it to stop fabricating answers and to verify from a parts diagram, the URL for which I provided. Its apologies and explanations grew longer and more elaborate each time.
We had good laughs, but sorry about the power and water usage.
had a similar thing happen with something pretty simple I had to contact my bank about. After about 12 tries of it not understanding I finally got a human who got it in the first reply.
Jesus fucking christ we’re far gone
I don’t know. I think she probably just wasn’t that into him. There isn’t much a woman won’t put up with if she actually likes him.
There are also things a guy can say or do that make them instantly unfuckable. Like saying that you are outsourcing your courtship to a chatbot.
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Something tells me you are not an authority on dating women.
I don’t think anyone is an authority on women
Fair, but women are probably more qualified
lol
Women aren’t a monolith like that, you should focus on that blind spot in the future.
It’s a good idea though. You write down 6 things and throw a dice. You’ll even hear “AI” whispered in the wind.
If someone’s first thought to make an important decision is to ask a computer to do it for them, I’d cancel too.
I want to know what YOU think, not what a clanker thinks you should think.
Clanker cucks everywhere dude
Three years ago when ChatGPT was starting to trickle down to the boomers, I was at a wedding where the brides father held a speech. It was the most generic nonsense I have ever heard and at the end he proudly said that this speech was written with ChatGPT. He wasn‘t even embarrassed.
Ok, that’s insane. If you don’t have enough feelings or love for your child to write a speech for their wedding… Then don’t give a fucking speech at all.
My dad just used some form of AI to hallucinate a “song” for Mom and their anniversary. He got real mad when I said I didn’t want to hear it. Both Mom and I have degrees in music and play an instrument or two. He still couldn’t figure out why it mattered.
Oh wow jfc
Oh man, that hurts to read
How is your dad married to your mother for that long without picking up that self expression comes from a human being? It’s like a fundamental aspect of art.
Tbf most people don’t define music as self expression.
Nobody says that.
Biggest mistake: showing her you don’t care.
If you want to win anyone’s heart you gotta be vulnerable, put in some effort that comes from within yourself. And that’s scary, because making the wrong choice can backfire.
But flat out saying “have some fancy schmamcy chatgtp on the house ma’am” is the equivalent of “personality? Me? Nah.”.
Using AI for stuff like this => IS <= disgusting, most people just haven’t caught on yet.
It’s like Facebook chat asking if I want to summarize a conversation with my friends with AI. Mf’er, I spend time with these people because I enjoy it. Why in the hell would I want to run my conversation with them through a slop filter?
I’ll go a different direction here: what you suggest for a first date is an opportunity to show how cool you are.
I went on an amazing coffee date with a woman where she took me to a tiny coffee and chocolate shop that was amazing. Sure, most of why the date went great was that we clicked instantly and chatted for hours until we really had to go and that we both found each other very attractive, but the setting set the stage, I just don’t think it would’ve gone as well in a Starbucks.
My first date with my wife she took me to the only lesbian bar in town then the next morning brunch at a popular cool taqueria. I remember thinking how she seemed so cool and in touch with the cool and fun parts of a city I’d been interested in since visiting occasionally in college.
I’ve had multiple great first dates to just local Mexican restaurants, followed by a walk in a park. They tended to be with women who had families and thus limited time and money, that too is personality. It involved the collaboration of “hey do you like mexican?” And when we enjoyed the meal, “there’s a park nearby and I still have time, want to go for a walk”?
All of these served as ways to show some personality and to establish a baseline for what you think a fun night out with your partner could be. The first girl and I didn’t enter a relationship because life got in the way shortly afterwards, so I can’t say how it would have gone. But for the moms, yeah dates were typically a cheap meal, a cheap or free experience, often involving walking, and constrained by the fact that their kids and husbands (polyamory not cheating) were their top priorities. With my wife, just as that first date, our nights out together often involve a bit too much at a queer bar followed by hours upon hours of talking and maybe a meal at a cool but cheap restaurant before or after.
If you use chatgpt to decide on a first date plans I’m going to assume that 5 years ago you were the type to have a first date at fridays or applebees. And not because you really liked it, or thought it was a good value, but because it was a sit down restaurant nearby that you know is good enough and most people are fine with. It says a night out will be bland if anything, and probably the bare minimum. Fucking hell, asking “so what do you like to do for a first date?” is more interesting and charming than that, it at least implies that you’re either very considerate or looking for a partner to take the lead or make decisions.
Just curious. I realize this community is probably the wrong place to ask, but how would you feel about someone using AI to brainstorm some date ideas but still doing the actual selection and planning themselves (and not bragging about using AI as something to admire)? To me, it doesn’t feel too different from doing a web search of “date ideas” and working off whatever lists you get.
At that point they should just get a rubber ducky.
Referring to this?
Dates should help you get to know each other. They should be things you already enjoy doing, or places you like to go, or want to see if you like. Expressions of who you are.
Asking the AI at all is a large part of the problem because it screams you have no personality and no preferences and think dating is some Hollywood romcom style big showy thing that it’s not and shouldn’t be. Every happily married couple I know goes on simple dates and always has. You shouldn’t need a list of date ideas. Period.
My wife and I went to her favourite restaurant for our first date, our most recent date was walking through a bookstore and showing each other fun covers. One of my best friends, his first date with his wife was just hanging out at a local park eating sandwiches and their most recent date was learning to make pierogi together. Things we enjoy or they enjoy. (Married about ten years for reference) Every happy couple I know has similar stories no matter how long they’ve been together. Even my 22 year old cousin.
If you need a list of date ideas. Just write down the stuff you like to do, or want to try. Done.
Anything bigger should be a special thing with someone and it should be special to you and your partner and looking for a list of other people’s ideas is the wrong move.
Okay, thank you. I’m autistic, and social activities are very challenging for me in general, so it’s genuinely helpful to have examples that show the expectations can be low.
No worries but I should clarify a little bit though.
Expectations can absolutely be high but the key is to find someone with the same expectations as you. I do know one couple who’s first date was skydiving and their wedding was a destination ski trip. The key is that that was who they both were before the relationship. Either one of them would not last in a relationship where dates are coffee shops and bookstores and such. It’s not “showy” relative to their usual selves.
If your idea of a good time is visiting the local gardens, and your date likes butterflies, then you’ve got a first date. If your idea of a good time is a rock climbing gym and your date enjoys editing together videos, then build your first date around a GoPro and a climb.
The lady in the original post met the guy in an art class, her expectation was probably to go get a coffee and visit a museum with his favourite local painting or something that they could talk about. Nothing fancy, just an expression of himself.
Thanks again for being willing to provide all that. In my defense, I did say expectations “can be” low, not that they always would be. It might be a moot point anyway. I’m still working out earlier steps.
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You also should show a bit of yourself. Your own interests, preferences, etc. An AI cannot help with that, unless you are the AI.
If someone wants an AI dinner date, they can make that up themselves.
At worst, just outright ask them if you’re unsure, to see what they might be into. They’d likely appreciate the thought.
The guy might as well just go around with “Moron” tatooed on his forehead.
On the other hand, it was very considerate of him to lay that out so early.
True. Could even be seen as a mature way of approaching relationships.
As I see it, they both won from finding the mismatch of expectations so early.
Kudos to him for it.
It it me or does AI reliance/psychosis disproportionately affect men? And by disproportionately I mean virtually every single one.
Uh, perhaps men more than women but every man?
Online, misandry is the cool bigotry.
/s
In my field I see a lot of AI reliance with men, and to a lesser extent with women. I don’t know if the difference between the sexes is actual or observation bias.
It is actually backed by studies.
Part of it is that LLMbeciles are tuned to “speak” like an overconfident techbrodude. This is actually off-putting to a lot of women. That whole “I know everything and have no humility about it whatsoever” vibe that techbrodudes and degenerative AI both have drives off a lot.
What are you saying? All men are AI-psychotic or all AI-psychotic people are men? Either way it’s wrong.
The first claim is disproved by this community. Plenty of men here.
The second claim is disproved by r/myboyfriendisai. Plenty of women there.
The second claim is disproved by r/myboyfriendisai.
Sweet Satan, I was not ready for that place. The levels of self-centeredness and self-absorption are unfathomable. I’d heard about people being up their own ass, but those people have built a Swiss chalet up their ass that they party in year-round.
Its just you. I don’t use it and as far as I know I’m a man. I may have missed a memo though.
AI is a sycophancy machine, and men will basically do anything you want if you glaze them.
Flattery will get you everywhere. Notice how that phrase is ungendered.
